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This has been a problem for 4 years, and i still havent gotten over it becasuse my bestfriend is still dating him. it gets worse. shes been my best friend for 6 years now. she doesnt act like herself and all they do is fight. they claim theyre in love but shes never had a serious boyfriend other than him so i dotn think she knows what love is because its definately not that. she tells me everything and all they do is fight. im not here to ask you for what i hsould do to make them break up because what ever she wants to do, she can do it. im asking who she thinks is more important me or him. she wont answer my texts even when theyre important and when i call her because i need her she wont answer. but oh if her boyfriend texts/calls her shes on it in a second. its not like its a new little puppy love, theyve been dating on and off for 4 years. this entire day shes been acting weird and so short with me. and i ask her what she was doing and she said she was with him all day even when we had plans. i told her i had to tell her somethings that happened with me like good stories and she doesnt frikin care anymore. i dont know what to do and she doesnt treat me like a friend. its her boyfriend taht changes her like this, because when theyre not dating, she actually tries to make our friendship work. like how i am litterally holding it together right now. i dont know what to do and im wondering, who does she care about more.
Well hun I think you know who she thinks is more important. Clearly in HER eyes her boyfriend is more important than you. You said she blows you off off for him and that she doesnt treat you like a friend. I think that makes it obvious that she cares more for him than you. Which is sad because -- boyfriends should never break up best friends. It sounds to me like shes treating you like a fall back friend. I know what you mean because I have a best friend like that too. She ALWAYS has to be with her boyfriend and she's never the same when she's around him but when she's not with him.. her and I get along okay- but its not hte same.
But unfortunately it seems she cares more about him, so I guess you just need to decide if its worth still being friends with her.
(Rating: 4) thank you for that and im starting to realize that. and its really sad because we've been so close for so many years. i just hate to see that because of the mean terrible things hes done to her in the past. thank you so much for your response.