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15/f
This will be a little long not very long.
Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and like half of this year weve had unprotected sex. This was because my family is having financial problems and cant pay for birthcontrol anymore. So yeah we have sex every week up to 3 times every week. Well for the past last 5 months ive been fine on my period but this month i was suppose to have my period 5 days ago. And i didnt but for like 2 days i was spotting and yeah it was time for my "real" period. I have a pregnancy test. Is there a chance im pregnant? When should i take the test?? Help asap pleaseee:)
Whenever you have unprotected sex you risk pregnancy, which is much more costly than birth control (unless you live somewhere that pays for abortions, but still, not a great alternative).
Go to your local planned parenthood, gynecologist, or family doctor to ask about methods of birth control that are less costly. Apart from condoms and the pill, there are actually zillions of options out there, all with different costs and effects.
In any case, if you need some spending money, have you considered getting a part-time job? The pill is not dirt cheap, but its costs would be easily covered by babysitting every few weekends, even more easily covered if you worked regular hours. The summer is coming up, and although the general consensus is that it's better to hire people over 16, many places would not mind hiring someone slightly younger.
While all of this could be easily done by you, where is your boyfriend in all this? Is he aware that you are off the pill? As it takes two to have sex, he should also take responsibility in paying for birth control. Until you can figure out a way to pay for your half, tell your boyfriend that he has to come up with the money to pay for some sort of birth control method or you will not be having sex (also remember that it takes about a month for the pill to kick in). A few weeks of abstinence is nothing compared to the worry involved with abortion/adoption/raising a child.
Which reminds me: you take a pregnancy test about a week after you miss your period (this may vary on the brand). Two days from now should be about right. If you are in fact pregnant, I suggest abortion or adoption since it seems as though you are not ready to raise a child yet. While some people are morally against abortion, it would be easier on your body and mind to not have to go through with the pregnancy... and there are ways, if you live in the states and it is not funded by the government, to get it funded through a non-profit.
Good luck with your pregnancy test... and please stop having unprotected sex.
(Rating: 5) thank you.