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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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I have this friend. Well, we USED to be best friends. However, throughout a couple years, I've kind of matured a bit and learned a lot and what not. She hasn't. So we're growing apart. The thing is, she is and always has been copying me. When we first met, she made friends with all of my friends. She got her hair dyed and cut to match mine, she was interested in all the guys I was, she called us "twins" all the time, and she basically did ALL the same stuff as me ALL the time. Yeah, yeah I know it's supposed to be the highest form of flattery, but to me, it's the highest form of annoyance. I don't know why I put up with it for as long as I have. Well, over Christmas I got a brand new phone which I had been waiting FOREVER for. It was so cool because it was SUPER expensive so no one around where I live had it. Then I came in to school today and she has the EXACT same phone as me. Same model, same color! This seriously struck something in me. It's like she's trying to be me and it's majorly creepy and disturbing. I know we're growing apart, but I don't want her to take MY unique qualities that she adapted to with her. They aren't her, they're me :( I just don't know...how do I get her to stop? And possibly completely distance myself from her? I just don't have time to worry about silly friend issues when I've got my school work and family issues to deal with :( thanks
I kind of think your blowing this out of proportion. How old are you? Are you in middle school? or like a freshman in high school or something? It's not her fault you have good taste in things. You wouldn't copy someone because you want to be just like them, you copy them because you like what they have, at least that's how I look at it. If she is your best friend (or was) doesn't that mean that the two of you have a lot of similar interests? So, of course she would like the same things you do..
If it really bothers you that much.. just be like "oh wow you have like everything i do, its so weird" and kinda laugh so it doesn't seem mean or anything. She'll probably take the hint..
I also don't get why this is something you would even worry about anyway. If you have all this school work and family things to worry about..why is this even coming into your mind? You're honestly making a way bigger deal about this then necessary, let it go. If that is the only reason why you don't like this girl because she steals your 'uniqueness' then that is a really lame reason to throw away a friendship..
Also, I mean do you wear really in style clothing and stuff? Because that is kind of like copying whats in style right now, and everything when you think about it. I'm sure everything you have and do isn't all your own ideas, you probably got it from somewhere too, whether its a magazine or from someone in school or something. She just happens to like everything you have.
I forgot to add something else, why I was asking about your age, if your in middle school or like even high school, she is probably just going through a identity crisis. It takes some people longer to figure out who they are, and their exact interests and everything.
(Rating: 3) You aren't even trying to understand how it FEELS to have your every move mimicked. It's different to get your sense of style from some random picture on the internet or from tv. She imitates me directly. She talks like me, dresses like me, has the same friends as me. This has been going on for like 3 years. But she wasn't at all like that before I met her, and she openly admits she has changed. This is usually just a typical teenage response, but in all seriousness, you don't understand. And you aren't trying to either.