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I really need to start taking my own advice.
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I've been friends with this guy for a couple of years now; we get along great, we spend time together whenever we can (we both work full time so it doesn't happen often) but whenever we can, we do.
I know at one point in our relationship he liked me for more than just friends, but now i don't know if he does or doesn't. He has an on again off again girlfriend whom he says he doesn't really care if she's in or out of his life, so as bad as this may sound, the girlfriend isn't really a problem.
so my question is... how do i know if he likes me as more than just friends. I don't want to ask him because what if he doesn't, i wouldn't want to ruin our friendship. So what signs should i be looking for? or what do you suggest i do? i'm so confused.
I actually had this happen to me one time. My best guy friend, Jonathan, and I spent all of our time together. I started to wonder if he was into me when my friends started asking me if he liked me. So, I began to look for some signs.
1. Did he make time for me when he could have spent it with his other friends? And/or, did he cancel other plans to spend time with me?
2. Did he touch me when he talked? (Ex: When people get flirty, they sometimes touch your arm or leg. Most people just don't notice it)
3. Did he get jealous when I talked about other guys?
4. Did he hug me goodbye? Hold doors open for me? Etc.
Well, he did. So, naturally I assumed he liked me. It freaked me out because I wasn't into him & I didn't want to lose the relationship we had. I sucked it up and flat out asked him, "Do you like me as more than a friend?" There was an awkward moment, he said no, and we laughed it off. We're fine now, still best friends, and he's got a girlfriend of 7 months.
Moral of the story? By looking for the signs, I totally got it wrong. Honestly, just try to suck it up and ask him. If he doesn't, laugh it off and do YOUR best to keep things as casual & normal as possible.
Good Luck :)
(Rating: 5) great advice! thanks, i think this might be the situation i'm in