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ok i have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a month n hes my very first boyfriend. im 16 by the way. yeah and my friend, lets call him TT told me some thigns about him that make me feel a bit nervous. im kinda not sure if i want to have sex before marraige but i definatly want to wait till after high school n TT knows that but idk if my boyfriend does. n TT was talking to me n he told me that my boyfriend once told him that life is about banging as many bitches as you can. that makes me realy nervous about if he'd pressure me into doing something i dont want to and if he'd cheat on me n hes reaaly dating me for only one thing. i dont even know if TT is telling teh truth, he did have a chrush on me and he was kinda heartbroken when he found out i got a boyfriend so im wondering if maybe hes only telling me that to ruin my relationship or is he realy trying to keep me from making a huge mistake. please give me ur advice its very much appreaciated.
TT could be saying what he said for any number of reasons. As well, since you were not actually there, what he said could be misconstrued (ie - he may have been joking, not meaning what he was saying, ect.).
Don't worry about him pressuring you before he actually does. Also be aware that if he ever did ask you for sex, the situation would probably be you telling him no, and that being the end of it. So far you have no reason to be making judgments about anything relating to your bf's wants/needs.
If this is something that is bothering you, you should bring it to your boyfriend's attention. "I know this is paranoid, my guy friend thinks you want lots of sex, he's probably wrong, right?" (half joking). Or just casually bring up sex, and tell him that you are fairly sure you are waiting until marriage.
Likely he's just as unsure about sex as you are, and dealing with it by making wisecracks to his friends in the meantime.
(Rating: 5) this made me feel a million times better.your probably right thanks alot.