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Ok so here it is... So I was dating this guys named Kenny right and like he was amazing to me and everything and like I loved to be around him and just spend time with him. (ok to fill you in He has a kid a little baby girl with another girl) ok so anyway like the saturday before we were talking and things got serious and he asked me some weird questions like is it wrong to break up with someone for no reason and stuff like that then I started to freak out thinking he was going to break up with me because I come up with this whole scenario that is Ex wanted to get back together with him and it just so happened to be true and then he told me all this stuff that he loved here still because she was his first love but he will always hate her for breaking his heart so bad and then like ever since then I felt distant from him and I was scared then he called me that Monday night and said that he didn't think we were on the same page and yeah like so he broke up with me and I don't even see where he got that from because I though that we were happy together and don't know like after he broke up with me I knew that he was going to get back together with is Ex and he did and one of my friends was talking to him and his excuse for breaking my heart was that she is his babies mama and that he still loved her.... so here is the thing like I am mad that he would do that to me and I feel betrayed because I trusted him so much and that I already have trust issues and that I had done things with him that I have never don't with anyone else ever in my life and I feel ashamed that I ever even considered giving it up to him if you know what I mean... and yeah he just broke my heart... ok but here is the really big deal... I am mad at him but I don't hate him.. and I probably should but I don't and you know I don't even want my friends mad at him and I still wanna be friends with him because I would rather just be friends than not have him in my life at all....
is this a bad thing am I making a bad choice?? (link)
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First off, I am sorry things didn't work out for you and Kenny. But maybe it is for the best. And no, it is not wrong to hate him, what you feel is your business really and theres no wrong way to love or hate someone. You have a reason to be mad b/c he did break your heart, but hating can be alittle extreme. Its good that you still want him in your life it shows you have strong character and are able to get back up on your feet when pushed down. Thats good. And talk to your friends, tell them your hurt things didn't work out with Kenny, but you don't want them to hate him for it.
And I'll tell you the truth, you can't help who you fall in love with, and although he wasn't right for you you will find someone else. So he wasn't right for you, just be optimistic about it and thank your lucky stars b/c dating a guy that already has a kid can be kind of stressful and with him still loving her, you know there would always be drama involved.
But good luck with everything, you are on the right path, keep your head up high and never stop believing in love.
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Thank you very much!
this really helps and I did talk to my friends and they know I dont what them to hate him and I dont think they do they just are mad that he hurt me..
but anyway thank you again =]
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