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Okay so first let me explain. I have two great friends, and we've been practically sisters and i know they always will be. Lets call my great friends, Lisa and Sue. There is another girl group at our school as well. They have some pretty mean girls in their group, but two of them are just ok (not very nice though). Lets call the ok girls Pam and Janice. Now, Pam has spread some pretty harsh rumors about Lisa, but Lisa says they've worked it out. However Pam still occasionally says some mean things about Lisa behind her back. Now Lisa, Sue, and I have always been civil to this other group, in fact Lisa, Sue, Janice, and Pam were all on the same XC team. they have all these inside jokes that they wont tell me and Sue even invited Pam and Janice over to make cookies and stuff. Lisa and Sue still tell me that they are just being nice, but now they seem to be really becoming friends. I know that Lisa and Sue would never ditch me, and that we would always have the better friendship, but i want to tell Lisa and Sue how this new behavior has been hurting a bit. Like Sue and Pam have things in their IM infos that talk about their cookie party or whatever. I feel left out, and i want to tell Lisa and Sue how i feel but i am scared they will think i am being ridiculous because even i know they would never ditch me. all i want to say is that i feel left out. should i just let the inside jokes slide and get over it or should i tell them how i feel, if so what should i say??? (link)
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I would surely tell them how you feel, but would not harp over the inside jokes to much. My suggestion is to feel more included start making jokes with them. Let them know how much it hurt to not be a part of it. Start using your own sence of humor to get their attention. When you make people laugh stuff just seems to work out. I am sure that when they see that side of you more often, you will be included. There could be many reasons why you where not a part of it from the beginning. Could be your personality, could be some of the stuff being said was dirty or harsh about others, an they where not sure how you would react. But overall dont worry about the things you cant change that are in the past. Head in to a newer direction and let your funny side come out. Great personalities go a very long way in life, dont sweat the small stuff, you will be a much stronger person in the long run. I hope this helps, besides I love good jokes if you ever wanna share one with me. Keep me posted and let me know how things are going..
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Well, thank you for the advice. And I think Pam and Janice might not be as bad as I thought. I could definitely give try to become better friends w/ them
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