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so there is this one guy i like he is 14 as am i and i really like him i think he likes me but i dont know. I wanna ask him to homecoming and i wanna go out with him and stuff. My problem is that i am really shy and dont like talking to guys and really hardly trust anyone espically guys ive never had a bf i know lame right. im afaid if we do become really close and stuff he'll laugh and not like me cauze ive never really kissed and one before. I want to impress this guy and want to know what to do to impress him. we are walking together in his sisters wedding so that may be a good time to talk to him but him and his family will be over next weekend also i dont know what to do. pleaze help the hopless (link)
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You are not hopeless, and its not lame that you've never had a boyfriend before. See the media potrays people to be older then they really are, and forces young girls to grow up too fast. Take your time for one thing, and you really just have to give it time. Ask him when you guys are alone, like when he comes over your house. Thats perfect. But don't ever do stuff you aren't ready for because you feel lame or too young, there ain't no such thing. Because the older you get, the younger you wish you are. I know. Oh and by the way I got my first kiss when I was 17. I don't feel any different than anyone next to me, b/c in the grand scheme of life it doesn't matter. There is no set age of when you should have your first kiss. I waited until it was the right moment, not in some game like spin the bottle. The first kiss is usually awkward, cause you don't know exactly what to do, but it gives you so much to look foward to for the second kiss. I have to agree with you, I am very shy, when talking to the guys I like, its hard you have to force yourself to get out of the shyness, how? well look at it this way, you ask him hes not interested, but if you don't you'll be kicking yourself for the rest of your life, trust me I know, I've done it so many times, with so many guys, b/c I was scared, and thats something you have to face. You only get one chance, you will have plenty of guys that will hurt you, I'm sorry buts its reality, but you'll learn from it. Just think through each decision, you can learn so much from the side lines. And when the time is right, jump in!
I hope that makes sense, I'm just trying to give you advice from my own personal experiences.
All the best! and don't rush, everything happens for a reason :)
In response to your second ? you should casually bring it up, basically say hey I really would like to go to homecoming, you going? he'll probably say yes, then say maybe we can go together, you have to let him know that you are interested. Just see how he feels by asking, it may be very nerve wracking, but can also be very worth while.
All the best!
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my next question is how should i ask?
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