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My ex and i started dating in april 2007 and broke up in early july 2007. we broke up because my "best friend" showed him a video of another guy on top of me. he broke up with me of coarse, but i still liked him alot. i tryed alll summer to talk to him but he would not talk to me at all. now its been a year later, we have talked a few times but only casually online and hardly in person. i tell myself im over him but others still believe im not. i even have hooked up with other guys since we broke up. and he has had a girlfriend and sometimes i really feel that i am over him and done with him.
right after we broke up i would have dreams as that we are still together and about a month later he was not in my dreams anymore. that lasted for about two months and suddenly when school started again in september 2007, i saw him at school all the time and it really hurt to see him, he is also the star athelte which made it harder because im a cheerleader and at football games i would hear touch down by him like every 5 minutes.
but anyway he started to appear in my dreams but we would not look at each other or say anything (no contact at all) as a weeks went on, he started being in the same room as me in my dreams, then after a week, the same car as me, then he would look at me, then we would have major eye contact, then he would start to say hi to me in my dreams, then we would have just a friendly conversation, then we would hug in my dream, and now in my dreams we are hooking up and of coarse it feels so right because when we were together i cared and liked him soooo much. but im over him now since its been a year later and moved on.
but now im just confused as to why im having dreams like that and what i want to know most is what the meaning of those dreams are or if i should talk to him or what should i do and what do the dreams mean?
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sounds like you are subconsiously trying to talk to him and have closure. Cause you aren't doing it in person you are doing it subconsiouly.
The cure/ resolution: you somehow need to talk to him, forget the timing and stuff, you guys need to go through everything, you need to sit down and get everything out in the open. awkward? probably, but it needs to be done.
Once you do that, you can move on. You will ifnally have closure. I know you guys rarely talk, but you need to, tell him your side and let him open up to you, it may finally heal the open wounds, and you can really truly get over him, not just say you are.
Best of luck, you need to react, b/c I've had dreams like that too, its all subconsious, and it doesn't fully end, until you fix it and respond, its kinda like your conscience. You have to finish the dreams and do something about it.
hope I made some sense at least :)
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thank you, you really helped alot..but when i talk to him..what do you think i should say?
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