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I've been away for a while due to a serious illness and subsequent health issues. Favourite quotes of the moment:
The children of Israel wandered the desert for 40 years - Even in biblical times men wouldn't ask for directions!
Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. whatever we do to the thread, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect. - Chief Seattle.
We spend the first 12 months of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. We spend the next 12 years telling them to sit down and shut up!
As you slide down the bannisters of life, may the splinters never be pointing the wrong way.
May you be in Heaven half an hour before the devil knows you're dead.
I've been very happily married since August 1980 to a wonderful man and have beautiful twin girls, now aged 31. Both are married to wonderful young men and one of our girls has recently made us grandparents to a beautiful, smart and feisty granddaughter. I studied geology with the Open University. I am retired from being a manager in a large UK based insurance company which I actually quite enjoyed. (How sad is that?). I love anything to do with the environment and wildlife and try to do my bit for preservation and conservation. I would like there to be a decent world for our grandchildren to inherit. I also have CFS so find life a bit of a challenge at times but always hope for better health in the future.
I have a deep interest in the spiritual and the paranormal worlds, having experienced several incidents myself, and have been involved in meditation groups and groups that (safely) explore the paranormal. There is more to this life than we would normally credit, so an open mind is always the best option. You're not so likely to get caught by surprise!
I have a deep fascination for anything to do with Ancient Egypt, as you can probably tell by my name. I have statues and paintings all around the house. As my hubby has a similar interest in Native Americans, we tend to have a lot of unusual wall decorations, like a tomahawk.
I love cars, especially vintage ones, but my all time favourite has to be the Bugatti Chiron, what a car!
I have had a lot to do with animals over the years. I have fostered many, helped to set up a wildlife charitable hospital and raised a diverse range of young animals from bats to fox cubs and different species of birds, even a baby deer! I have had great pleasure in sharing my life and home with a number of animals over the years, most of them rescues. I am currently sponsoring an Amur Tiger, they are such beautiful cats and desperately need help, there are so few of them left. I was lucky enough a couple of years ago to meet some Aye-Aye's and Livingstone's Bats, a truly wonderful experience. We now have three cats, Oliver and Mollie, a brother and sister, he's a ginger and she's a tortoiseshell and a black and white called Daisy. She arrived in a taxi and was left on our doorstep in a cat carrier with the message that 'they knew we loved cats and would be good to her'. She has settled down well and gets on wonderfully with the other two.
If you have a pet that is showing ANY signs of illness or distress, please, please, please take it to a vet! Even if finance is an issue, work that out later. It is cruel to leave an animal suffering for any reason. Most animals do not show signs of illness until they have been ill for some time, basic instinct tells them it is a display of vulnerability, and certain death in the wild. Their instincts have not caught up with domesticity.
I do feel that we should all treat others as we would wish to be treated. Bad karma comes back to haunt us.
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Two Terrible Two questions...
Can you explain what the terrible twos are, exactly?
My toddler is not two, yet his behavior makes me wonder if this is what the terrible twos is.
And if it he is experiencing the terrible twos at not yet a year and a half old, do I seriously have this to look forward to for another year?
He's a very sweet boy, but my word, does he have his moments...
Please... Share your experiences and your advice.
I just don't know what to do some days.
The terrible twos and threes - I remember those with no regrets. I had twins so double the angst!
From what the doctor said to me, you should take heart. You are raising a child who is not afraid to question or push boundaries. Despite the trauma it may be causing you at the moment, this is worth it. He is not afraid to express himself.
He has started to realise there is more to his little world than mum, wants to explore and find his feet, but because of his age and limitations, discovers it's not so easy. Then he gets frustrated and takes it out on the people he feels safest with. Really, it's a compliment, if he didn't feel safe he wouldn't do it!
Children seem to be developing faster these days, so they may very easily start the tantrums earlier than two. It can go on past two but it should start to ease up by the mid threes. However, be prepared for it to go on longer if he is an emotional little soul. He sounds perfectly normal to me, just hard work for now. The time will pass and it honestly will get easier. It just doesn't seem like it at the moment.
I used distraction with mine, sometimes the more bizarre the thought the better it worked. You can get to be quite an accomplished actress with the "Can you see that enormous pink cat by the hedge? Oh, you've just missed it, if you keep very quiet and keep looking it may come back". By the time they've got bored looking for a mythical large pink cat, they've forgotten the tantrum and what it was about.
I also played lots of learning games with them. They've only recently realised that this was what they were, and they're 23 now. Some of the earliest of the games I played was to put the names of household objects on the items, television on the tv, radiator on the radiator etc. They learned the look of the word along with seeing what it was on. We could then play 'find what starts with this letter'. Flash cards distracted them too and music. We danced a lot, they can't have a tantrum when they're jumping up and down to Nelly the Elephant by the Toy Dolls. :)
Here's the link if you want to try it.
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=eti21PVHXrg&feature=related
(Rating: 5) Thanks for answering! Sorry it took so long for my rating. My aunt had twins and a singleton. She said the twins were easier in some aspects, such as they kept each other entertained! LOL! Ah, but it would be such hard work! I've tried averting his attention like you suggested, and it works great! :-D Thanks so much again, and thanks for the link!