My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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There's that saying, "Behind every hot girl, there is a guy who's tired of f*cking her"?
Well, what is a girl to do when it gets to that point?
My boyfriend and I been together for a few years now, and honestly, I've been getting prettier and prettier. So I know sex and looks aren't going to sell here.
My biggest fear is that he's going to (or already has) cheat on me, just because he wants something new. It doesn't matter that he has the girl that everyone wants; he just wants something else.
I don't know what to do. It's like there is nothing left to talk about. We're "all talked out". What kind of new things should I do, or that we should do together (not sexually)?
I don't want for us to separate, but it's like we've reached a plateau and we're going nowhere. How the hell do I save my relationship?
Or if you are in a marriage, how do you as a couple keep from staying bored? (link)
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Sometimes the hardest, and the best, thing to do is walk away with your head held high.
I have been with my partner for 32 years and believe me it has been tough at times. I can only say that mutual respect and understanding keep our marriage strong, but ultimately it is the knowledge that my husband loves me completely. Yes there are always times when you think is the grass greener on the other side and maybe life could be more exciting. I would never want to inflict that pain on him ever and if your partner truly loved you, he wouldn't do it to you.
If a relationship has run it's course then there will be nothing that can be done to save it. The best advice I can give you is to make an "appointment" with your boyfriend to sit down together and discuss where you see yourselves in 3/5/10 years time. You both need to be honest with each other and discuss your feelings about each other and ask him to be totally honest with you about whether or not he has cheated.
On the question of how to keep a relationship alive: keep talking to each other, occasionally surprise each other with little gifts or notes. Maybe a surprise picnic or outing somewhere. Never keep your feelings bottled up but discuss them together.
I hope that I have managed to answer your questions, but if you want to ask me more, please let me know. I wish the very best.
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