askccupcake07
advice column ask question view feedback favorite columnist advicenators

Q: So here goes:
My dad was in the military for a long time. Several decades you could say. So, my whole life, we'd move around to a new duty station every 2-4 years. I'm fifteen now and my dad finally retired. Now I'm living in my 'permanent house'.
But I'm coming up on my fifth anniversary of living here and I'm feeling antsy. Like, I feel like it's time to just get up and leave you know? This is the longest I've ever lived in one place...
I feel as though I've subconsciously already 'prepared' for the move that just isn't going to happen. I've had falling-outs with most of my friends and I've gone through and gotten rid of stuff in my room that I don't feel I need wherever we're going. But we aren't going anywhere. I stopped caring for my relationships for other people and so on a few months ago. And now looking back, I think it's because I figured I'd have a chance to start over in a new place. But I don't.
It's basically just that my mind I suppose thought I was leaving. But I'm not. So now my life is a mess and I don't know how to set it right.
Is there any way to break this cycle of 'preparing' to move?
Get back together with your friends and tell them about the situation that you are in. Tell them you are used to packing up and you really aren't moving this time. I really don't think there is a way to break the cycle execpt by just not giving your stuff away...etc..you'll get used to the permanent thing soon. Hope this helps!

Thanks, but this really really doesn't help at all. My friends wouldn't understand and it's not like I can just randomly use that as an excuse. I was asking is there any way I can break this mental cycle. So this answer doesn't help as much as it could. It's not that simple.

bio
ccupcake07
Hey Everyone! I am on the computer a lot and if you and questions or concerns, you can send me a message here on advicenators and i will answer as quickley as possible. I give honest answers but am not to harsh on people. You can ask me any kind of question and i will answer it! Ask away! Thanks!

Info
Website:
Member Since:
October 23, 2006

Answers:
383

Last Update:
December 30, 2011

Visitors:
22099

Main Categories:





Favorite Columnists








layout by Adam Particka

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
humorist-workshop

eXTReMe Tracker