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alright. i have a bit of a situation with a friend of mine....we're both 16. and girls.
so basically, she's grown to think of herself as a princess. like no joke. she stares in the mirror 24/7..she thinks she's the best poet in the world, she thinks every guy wants to woo her and sweep her off her feet. she is pretty, i admit. but her arrogance is getting to everyone she knows.
this is a basic day with her:
friend: I look SO beautiful today! *flips mirror open* *brushes hair, applies mascara, blows a kiss, smiles*
me: Yeah you do..
friend: psh, I know I do.
that's basically how an average day is. and i've taken it for this whole year..i havent said a word. but now im just sick of it. i dont want to be her friend anymore. the problem is, we have many mutual friends. but theyre getting sick of her too. we already got into a fight. and it was her fault. but i apologized ...three times..so she'd talk to me. this was her reply after my sincerest apology: "i appreciate the effort. but i cant talk to you just yet." she acts like a motherfucking princess who cant forgive! how am i supposed to respond when she DOES forgive me ? [for no reason] i dont wanna take the blame and make it seem like she's a princess and everyone deserves to be forgiven by her! what should i doo? :(

When she is willing to forgive you, you could say something like "I'm sorry I was mean to you/ blew up at you, but sometimes I feel annoyed when you are always complimenting yourself about your looks in front of me." (substitute "annoyed" with "jealous" if you want to flatter you. In the mean time, stop apologizing until she comes back to you. It saves a lot of effort and will make her "forgive" you faster as she will have less fun moping around being upset.

By the way, the best way to get someone to stop doing anything is to act supremely bored and disinterested when they do it. If you've told her how annoying her arrogance is and she doesn't get it, the best thing to do is the next time she looks herself in the mirror, turn away and talk to someone else, or stare blankly and disinterestedly at a wall. Telling you how beautiful she is will become less fun, and she will stop.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks. This is getting on my last nerve -__-

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