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i cant see my best friend ever again. except school but were going to different schools next year... so never again and if she goes some where, i cant. we're in the same group of friends and i can never go with them. my mom always screams and yells at me on how much she hates her. all because she made my neighbor and my mom get in a fight over stupid shit, and she says shes disrespectful but shes not. the last time my mom saw here was like a month or two ago. my mom says so much bad stuff about her and she ends up thinking its totally worse or something thats not. i say anything about it and she yells at me then i end up pissed off and cryin for the rest of the day. well my friend is the only person to really understand me. we get along so good and she really did save my life. i used to cut and was in really bad depression and she helped me threw it. then my mom comes and screams at me and it gets worse. the only reason i feel like shit and got into depression and everything is because of my mom. i lost all my old friends they didnt understand me at all they would avoid me and im in so much trouble for that to. and how i act she blames my friend and she blames her for EVERYTHING i do which has nothing to even do with my friend. my mom blames her for me gettin depressed and likeing all the gothica stuff and style and so much that HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MY FRIEND. my moms making me loose the only person i really care for and i live for and she helps me and i started loving life for a while till my mom said i was seein her to much then my life went straight down to hell. my friend is the ONLY person to understand me i love her. im crying my eyes out so bad right now even me and my mom got in the biggest fight because i saw her today and got so happy. i just feel dead i hate my life so much now but if i say anything about this to my mom or a counselor it will only get worse. i did tell my mom all this well yelled it and thats why im screamin and cryin so hard right now. i dont no what to do. im 14 female please help me its serious.
ok, well you have to sit down with your mother and you both have to calmly talk about this. there is no way you can ever get this resolved if all you guys do is yell at each other. you just have to sit her down and tell her "mom, i love this friend so much. she is the only one who understands me. i tell her everything. she holds all my trust. mom, i really need to see her again. i know that you don't like her, but right now what i need is my one true friend." besides that, you have to come clean and tell your mom about how you feel about *her*. you have to tell her about how you blame her for your depression and how she makes you feel horrible when she yells at you. if you can't say all this to your mom, you can tell your counselor and then she'll tell your mom. i hope that your mom realizes how much this means to you because it seems like this girl you're not allowed to see is a true friend. i really hope that you can fix things =]]]]
(Rating: 5) thank you so much but i have no guidence counselor and i can tell my mom either