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i cant stand being with my bestfriend anymore we've been close for like 9years now, since forever but she totally pisses me off very so often! like i can never forgive her for throwing things in my face while we were younger, also! she always like the guy i like, last year i told her i like this guy, then she went after him! but he didn't like her, he said she was too weird and not his type, the whole school knows about it, and yeah we have some really good times, but others shes a complete total female dog! i can't stand her gusts! i let her stay at my house after school every day because she lives far away and her mom picks her up at like 8 or 9pm, then a few months ago she told me she can just come and go as she pleases, its her decision that she could stay or not at my house, she acts as if my house is her house and she can come and go as she pleases, i convinced my parents to let her stay, my parents said if it makes me happy, so shes here, but she thinks shes always right about everything, so when she started to go to my school she became worst of who she was! she took all my friends away from me, dyed her hair like 10times to get attentions from others, and she disses only about EVERY guy i like, its soo annoying, i cant tell her to just leave after 9 years, im so confussed, she lies to everyone about her, making everyone at my school like completely hate me and choose her over me, im hurt realy bad of what shes done, and she makes her mother more miserable then anyone, she threatens to kill her self of she doesnt get what she wants, my parents dont like her at all, since we were younger my parents dont like her because she was a bad influence, i got soo sick of my friends staying over for sleep overs and everything and say how great or wonder she is,...she came over once to my house over the weekends and totally liked like bestfriends with my friends, and laughed at me,...she thinks she knows everything about me, well shes wrong i hate her, but i dont wanna loose her, advice please?

well, i know how you're feeling right now because i had a friend that was the exact same way. she would always try to out-do me. we were best friends for like five years, and then all of a sudden she became so different. unfortunately, people change. i guess she feels like she has to always be better than you. she's trying to show others that she's better than you too. well, by what you've said, i can already tell you that she's not.she uses it all for attention, if she is being mean and putting you down all the time, that bullying and a real friend wouldn't treat you that way. as for the whole thing with stealing the guys that you like, she's trying to make it like a competition. and with dying her hair alot, she's just doing it for attention. when she's nice to everyone else but mean to you, she's trying to make them think that she's better than you. i'm sorry but a real friend wouldn't do that. yes, you said that there were some good times where you guys were just like best friends again, but the truth is, if you think about the bad times more than the good times, i don't think you should be her friend anymore. and even though you don't want to lose her as a friend, you have to think about it: is this really a good friendship?? does she really care about me or is she just trying to hurt me? there's no reason why you guys can't still talk and everything, but i don't think you should keep her as a close friend, and i don't think you should fully trust her either. instead, surround yourself with people who make you feel good, people you can trust, people who make you feel happy. you deserve so much better!! i really hope everything works out for you!! =]

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(Rating: 5) Wow thxs that helps alot, and your right, i shouldnt and dont trust her, she tells every1 my ser=crets how can i trust her?

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