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a friend of mine has an eating disorder. its not anorexia or bulimia or anything like that. she eats, but very little. and when she gets stressed out it makes her stomach hurt. and then she makes herself throw up. i have yelled at her about it and stuff because shes lost over 20 pounds since christmas and its totally unhealthy. she claimes she is just fine, but i know thats total bullshit. i really respect our friendship, and i dont want to ruin it by telling someone who could help her. i know it could help her and would really pay off, but i've been in her position. not with eating, but i was cutting and told my so-called friend, and she told her parents and her parents called me parents and it was a mess. and i hated her for it. but i dont want my friend to keep up this bad habbit! shes not ok! its out of control! and she wont listen to me! but if i tell someone, i might lose her! what do i do?

well, you really have to think about it for a minute. your other friend told your parents about your cutting, right?? and after it, you hated her because you thought you could trust her, right?? well, maybe she was in the position you are in right now. she was your friend, and really wanted to help, but was scared to. now, even though you hated her for telling, did it help you in the long run? that's what you have to think about with your friend and her eating disorder. would you rather lose the friendship or lose your friend forever? if you are afraid of her finding out that you told, you can tell a school counselor and ask to remain anonymous. that way, you can get your friend the help she needs. and even if she does end up finding out, she'll appreciate it later. your friend has a problem, and she needs help to get it under control. do what you think is best. just don't wait until it's too late.

i hope this is helpful =]]]

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(Rating: 5) yeah. it did stop my cutting.

thanks.

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