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Well this sunday me and my boyfriedn will be going out for a year . But last night we broke up with me , He said i was to jelous and he couldnt take it anymore . And he told me he wanted to break up and it broke my heart , really did . Then this morning he called and ask if i was going to school and i asked him why he broke up with me and he said he doesnt know what he wants right now . At schoolwe still walked together and then 2nd period he put his arm around me and kiss my head and said we'll talk about this later. Then going to 4th he pulled me to the side and grabbed my hand and said baby i dont want to break up i just didnt like the way things were going and i want to change things. So he said were still together kissed me and walked off , but we still needed to talk and stuuff because between classes wasnt long. So at lunch we talked and he said he felt bad breaking up but being without me made it worst . i said i was sorry for being overly jelous & he apologized about breaking up . Im just scared its going to happen again . It broke my heart so bad i couldnt and still cant eat. ShouLd i give it another go or am i just getting played ? i really love him i want it to work but im keeping my gaurd up . thanks .
Sounds like mostly some kindof error in judgment, considering he changed his mind a day later. He may have some kind of unresolved problem with you that you should bring up, or it may have been he was just in a really bad mood that night. Either way, you need to somehow get him aside to talk about why he said he wanted to break up with you.
If it really was because he was tired and stressed out at someone else, it will make you feel a heck of a lot better.
If not, having a conversation about it is even more important. You'd have to figure out honestly where his comment is coming from. If the main reason is your jealousy, you could try saying solutions, ie what you will do to be less jealous, and what he can do to make you feel more secure. Come to some kind of compromise where you both understand where the other is coming from. This way you can understand why he does things to make you jealous, and he can understand what he does that sets you off in the first place.
It may feel a bit like you're accusing him when you start this conversation, so make sure you say statements like "I feel - " eg. " I feel like we should talk about why you wanted to break up so I can trust you again".
You shouldn't have to keep your guard up in a relationship. If you feel like this, you really need to talk to him until you feel like you can let him in again.
(Rating: 5) thanks. But im trying to let it go back to normal , which i know isint going to snap back in to place just like that , but im just so scared its going to happen again and i just cant take that heart break for a secand time .