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Ok, I don't know what's going on. I really don't know how to deal with disappointment. I don't feel like explaining the whole thing but I'm disappointed about this thing I was going to go to but it didn't work out. It shouldn't even be that big of a deal but starting tonight, I'm REALLY preoccupied about it. I'm not even nervous about anything just really disappointed. I was like pacing the floors, my heart was sort of beating, I couldn't think straight, I didn't know what to think, I couldn't relax. Now I probably wasn't having an actual "panic" attack but I was like in a panicky mood...over being disappointed about something?! This has happened once before. What's wrong with me? Is this normal? If so, what should I do and what should I do for now on when I have to deal with stuff like this?
You are right that it wasn't a panic attack, but if you are reacting like this on a very constant basis, you should get it checked out anyway.
Remember that this isn't something incredibly serious or unusual, but in any case it feels crummy, doesn't it? Tell your mom some of your anxiety concerns, and see if you can perhaps build something into your lifestyle to destress.
It doesn't have to be huge, but little things, like spending a half hour letting yourself do nothing, exercising, and getting enough sleep help a lot in controlling anxiety.
When you get panicky, try doing something that either lets you let out the nervous feelings, or let go of them. This can really be anything. For example, you could try punching a pillow, running, screaming, drawing, talking to a friend on the phone or writing down all of your thoughts in a journal to let out the panic. Or you could get yourself to listen to some calm music and think about happy things (ie, times when you weren't disappointed in yourself)until you feel better.
If you want more tips, you could see some kind of therapist/ guidance person for more advice. Not in an "OMIGOD I'm mentally ill!" way, because you're not, but in a "do you have any tips for getting me to not panic so much?" way.
Remember also to put things in perspective. Disappointment sucks ass, but there are other good things out there for you, I promise =]
I hope you feel better soon.
(Rating: 5) thank you, that made me feel better =)