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Let's see, about me. I've been diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia Syndrome, Clinical Depression, as well as some other related mental and physical illnesses. Despite this, I'm happier now than I can ever remember being.
I've been a vegan since August 2007. In other words, I do my best not to consume anything of animal origin, ranging from the obvious (meat), to the somewhat obvious (eggs and dairy), to the not-so-obvious (honey, wool, silk, and more). I love this life. I have so much more appreciation for everything and everyone around me, and I feel so at peace with myself and the world. I wake up everyday and know that I'm making a difference. It's been a huge turning point in my life.
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I intend to pursue a career in psychology, first obtaining my BA, and then attending graduate school in order to study for my PhD. It's a little daunting at times, but I know it will be worth it. I want to help people, plain and simple. I want to make a difference. I want to change the world. And I believe I can, if only in a small way.
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I'm not sure how to talk to my friend about getting help for his depression. He's been pushing me away lately. If it helps, my mom is a psychologist. I have talked to my parents about him, and I don't think they really want me with him. My mom is more understanding of him than my dad is. She knows he's a great guy, but he has problems. She lets him come over whenever he wants and gives me money to buy him food when he needs, but that's it. I don't know how to help anymore. A new problem is that he is sneaking around having sex with his girlfriend. Her parents took her out of our school because they didn't like him. But in reality, the girl is the problem. He hasn't done anything wrong. She forces him to do bad things. What I'm afraid of is that he'll end up a daddy, and he really doesn't need that in his life.
That's a tough one.
Honestly, the first step I would take would be to talk to someone at school--a teacher or guidance counsellor. That way it's sort of neutral territory. It's not your parents, since they don't want you involved, and it's not his parents (who seem to be part of the problem). Are there any teachers he seems to trust, or who seem particularly interested in him or concerned about him? That might be the first place to go.
If you don't feel that you can do that, even offering a few numbers of hotlines might help. That way if he needed to call, he'd be able to at least talk to someone professional, without burdening you--and I know, he's your friend and therefore it isn't (or shouldn't be) a burden, but realistically, it isn't something you can fix.
It's a tough situation. There really is no right answer. But I wish you both the best of luck, and don't give up--but make sure you take care of yourself, too. Your number one responsibility is ultimately to you; don't lose sight of that. Sometimes caring for a friend so much can end up destroying you.
Take care.
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