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Okay, well... I'm friends with several bi's, several lesbians and several gay people. I met a few of them on the internet and yes, I know they are not just perverts because I have their phone numbers! *waves paper in the air* Now, the problem is... My other friends hate gays, bis, and lesbians. It's stupid! They're mean to them anyway... And, this makes me uncomfortable because I think... I may be bi. Yes, I said I THINK. I don't know... Cuz, sometimes I feel attracted to the same sex, but at the same time don't. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Like... At a slumber party, I accidently put my leg over this girl... And started playing with her hair... And... I accidently murmure she was cute... *twitches* Um... But, I have a boyfriend and... I dunno. Can somebody help me here? Am I bisexual? If I am, I need to know so I can hide it from people because my mom is racist against gays, lesbains and bisexuals... T_T pelase help ASAP!!!
If you're attracted to girls and guys I'd call you bisexual, but if you're not entirely sure yet that's fine too, and I'd call you "bicurious".
Relax. You don't need to make any judgments on your sexuality right this second. Just see who you end up liking, and then take it from there.
If everyone you know is extremely homophobic, telling them you're bi may not be the best thing. How and when you "come out of the closet" is entirely up to you.
About "hiding" it - not flirting with girls would probably do the trick. As far as I know there's nothing about the way a person dresses/acts that would make someone consider he or she to be bisexual as opposed to straight.
*answer to feedback*
If you're turned on equally by both sexes you're probably bisexual =]
It's unfortunate the people you are close to are morons. You might be able to still confide in some of them, though. Try to bring up the subject of different people's sexuality with different people in a generally way, and try to weed out the non-homophobic people. You don't have to tell your mom anything - I don't know her - but likely she'd have a slightly different opinion on the subject if her own daughter was involved.
Just a thought though, about all this - you're not attracted to the same sex all of the time. Are you always turned on by guys? Just a thought.
Hang in there!
(Rating: 5) Well, to answer your thought... I'm not usually turned on by guys... A lot of times... It's girls, but... It's equally between them both. I get turned on equally by both sexs... Does that answer it? And, thanks for the great advice!!!! :)