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I go to a club and there is this boy that goes there. We got on normally, didnt speak a tonne to eachother but talked. He then got my msn and we started talking more, just normally. After three months of being friends he told me he liked me, but didnt bother doing anything about it. I didnt like him. I'm not ready for a relationship. This was about october. Then in january he asked me out. I told him id think about knowing that i would say no because i didnt like him. But then i began to think we'd be good together even though i didnt like him and it confused me. I came to conclusion that i didnt like him. I turned him down. It all turned out awkard and we got angry with eachother. Now we are friends and are acting like normal but i dont like it and its annoying because after everything we felt, or said is still there and its being pushed to one side. it ended before it started. Where do we take it from here - are we friends or not? Should I still talk to him?He compliments me a lot too
Technically you could still be friends with him, however, if he still has feelings for you and is still trying to win you over, it may be a good idea to distance yourself from him.
You could talk to him about this if you wished to. Say something like, "Would you be okay being just friends with me if I would never go out with you?" Or something like that, and view his comfort level. If you're fine hanging out with this guy and he doesn't make you feel awkward, it becomes his decision, ultimately, whether you guys can hang out or not. If he can't stop hitting on you and it bugs you, distance yourself. If you guys still get along fine and non-awkwardly, it might be flattering to be friends with someone who semi-worships you.
That said, bringing up the pushed aside feelings and going from there probably isn't a bad idea.
(Rating: 4) Thanks lots xx