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Hey. :]
I'm currently 16 and in the eleventh grade, and Adam is in the same grade as I am, but he's a year older. Both of us are single, as we have been for awhile. I have never liked anyone as much as I like him.
He's perfect. He has a 4.2 GPA, he's gorgeous (and the envy of lots of other girls), he is in the top choir at our school, and he plays varsity baseball. He's the perfect height for me, and our senses of humor mesh so well. We definitely make each other laugh and have a lot of fun together.
On and off, I've liked him since the sixth grade. However, there was like a 3-year block when I didn't even think about him.
He has been sending me mixed signals. For example, when I asked him if he was busy at sunset (I was doing a photo shoot and I wanted him to swing by so I could take some pictures of him.), his response was, "Sadly, yes. :(( What are you doing?" We're talking more and more each day, and I compliment him a lot. He initiates conversation pretty much as much as I do.
His friends aren't my biggest fans, but I am friends with a lot of them. We share some of the same friends.
I don't want to put our friendship on the line by telling him how I feel, but I do kind of want to test the waters.
I just can't differentiate between friend feelings and girlfriend feelings.
Thank you. :]
(Oh, and please type correctly.)
You haven't written anything that makes it obvious that he could like you or not. Pretty much with girls and guys being friends there's usually a bit of a grey area where you could potentially like the other person.
The good news, though, is that if you've been friends for a while, the chances that he likes you, or has liked you at some point, are fairly high.
Test the waters by flirting. You don't have to profess your love or anything, but you could give some hinters by putting your head on his shoulder and arms around his side if you watch a movie or whatever, giving him hugs, kissing his cheek, or just plain teasing and joking around with him a lot. If he reciprocates, he probably likes you., but then, it also depends on how he normally acts with girls - some guys are just generally touchy-feely with everyone.
If all goes well with the flirting, try asking him out in a way that would make it clear that it's a date. This might be harder for you to do if you've been friends a while. Valentine's day is coming up, so, you could always send him a card then with some chocolates that hints you like him slightly more than in the friend way.
If the confusion remains, flat out telling him how you feel may not be a terrible idea, either. (or, you know, "do you want to go out with me?". If you're really close, you should be able to tell each other stuff like that, right?
(Rating: 5) We're not really close. Unfortunately. We're friends, but not like best friends or anything.