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I need help. To start of there are two guys that i really like and they like me also and one guy is always tryin to get to know me better but at the same time he keeps trying to get in my jeans and i'm not sure if he totally respects my wishes and at the same time he cares about me so much and he like calls me every day and things like that and he's more like a boyfriend than just a dude that i like. and well the other guy is not as caring and nurchring as he should be but he respects my wishes and he likes me alot too but he hardly ever calls me. and well ima put it this way he's a great kisser.
WHO WOULD I BE BETTER OFF WITH?
Which one do you like, honestly like, are actually emotionally attached to enough to want to date like? Honestly, if you don't know the answer, you probably don't have enough preference to date either. I'd give it time for your feelings to develop more. Who cares if they like you and only you? It's gotta work both ways, hun.
But if you really want my opinion on these guys, anyway... I'd say that calling you every day isn't always a good thing. It shows that he's pushy, even though you're not dating him. That combined with the trying to get into your jeans makes him sound like a creeper you should stay away from, from your brief description.
If the other guy is less "caring and nurturing" it's probably because he's less pushy. He may call a girl more, say, if he's in a relationship with them. It may also be he's just more of a laid back guy that isn't as big on the calling. Which is alright, but it might not work completely if you're more high maintenance/you don't ever communicate your wish to be called more.
Normally I'd get you to decide, as I sorta did with my first blurb, but now I'm just gonna say definitely not the first guy. You don't want to be with someone who you doubt will respect you, ever. It's just not a good situation to be in.
(Rating: 5) thank you so much!