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14/f. i am just so confused latley and i dont no what to do or think or anything. i dont even no who i am anymore. okay so for some odd reason i am like so majorly attracted to gay guys. like i love them so much. i think it might be since my brother is gay so it made me appreciate them more? but i have no idea. so i went out with a gay guy and i new he was gay, but eventually since he was gay we broke up because he wasn't attracted to me in that way, obviously since i was a girl. so were friends now. but whenever i see a gay guy or anything my heart just skips a beat and i cant take my eyes off of them, even if their not all that cute. i dont no what to do and i dont no my problem. im not attracted to any other guys, at all. i'm not attracted to girls, so im not a lesbian, at least i think. is god trying to tell me something? i have no idea what to even think anymore! there is absolutley no other guy i am attracted to except if their gay. please, anything will help. thank you!

Well my dear.. there are just some things in life that are and always will be unexplainable. I dont know why you.. like gay boys? Maybe its possible that you like them, because you know you can't have them? Its human nature to want what we cannot have. I also can say that I know how you feel about not knowing who you are at the moment. I'm sixteen and a half, and I sure as heck don't know who I am. But its all right. When I was a freshman, I thought I had everything together and that I knew me, and I was who I was. But as you get older, things change, your personality changes, the way you view things, and change is never bad, but make sure you include the people you love in this change, and if the change is making you feel good, show them;so they can feel good too. .. but back to your problem, with liking gay guys? I think first you need to state to yourself, that you cannot be with a gay guy, since obviously that will not work out, second; maybe think about why you like them in the first place? It helps for me sometimes, to just sit, think and solve my own problems, most of the time we can solve our own problems, we are just too upset to realize it. I hope things get better for you, I really genuinely do. Life is better when you're at peace and happy.

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