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Q: F/15
Every since the begining of this school year I've been feeling really depressed. There are a lot of different reasons why. First of all, I dont have many friends. I have one close friend who I hang out with everyday, but sometimes she blows me off, which is understandable, to hang out with other people, and I wonder the halls alone, feeling like an idiot, wishing I were at home. I live in a small town and go to a small school so I already know everybody and its hard to make new friends when you're a sophmore in high school and everybody is separated by "levels of coolness".
Last year, life was great. I was a freshmen and I was dating a junior, who I fell for. We broke up after about 4 months and we pretty much lost all contact. Thats what hit me the hardest. I still love him but hes in love with his new girlfriend. I keep thinkin that I'll never find another guy because I've been single for months and everyday I tell myself things will get better but they never do.
I hate waking up everyday knowing that it will just be another sad, pathetic repeat of what happened the day before. I want out of this life. I want to drop out of school. Or move. Or die. I dont care anymore. Ive never felt like this before and Im really starting to scare myself. I keep thinking about killing myself. I've thought about it a couple times before but I always knew in the back of my mind that I would never do it. Now im not so sure.
Usually I would talk to someone about how im feeling to try to work things out but i have nobody to talk to. asking random people for advice on the internet is pointless too....i dont even know why im doing it. I just want to die. I want to stop hurting inside. there are so many other things going on in my life that i cant even explain on here because I dont want to tell anybody. I hate it so much.
please..........does anybody have any good advice. nothing like "try to make more friends" or "you'll get a new boyfriend, just put yourself out there" i need to hear something real.
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I really feel for you in your situation. I can't even tell you how much I want to be your friend and go to your school so you won't have to feel the way you do.
Honestly, your feelings and the way you are living is so important. And you really need to pour your heart out to someone who will listen and help you feel better. Either it can be this close friend of yours, or maybe your parents or a counselor or anyone you trust.
Keeping everything a secret hurts. Especially if it's a very big secret that has so much pain. You really need to open up to someone and truly get some help at feeling like yourself again. Once you start to open up, you'll realize that people really do care about you more than you know.
You don't actually have to come out and tell them you feel like killing yourself. You just have to say that you are terribly depressed and you feel like your life isn't worthy at this point.
As for this guy, you know, it hurts very much to have to move on. And I never really get all that personal in my advice, but I'm moving on from someone too, and it hurts very deep. So I absolutely know where you're coming from.
You have a lot on your plate to deal with. School, friends, and a break-up that still hurts. You should slow down and manage everything one at a time. But not by yourself. If you try tackling everything at once, you'll feel overwhelmed.
If anything, you should start with yourself. Talk to someone and take action with your feelings.
The reason why you still hurt over this guy is because you haven't had enough of a social life to get caught up in other things. So, you should really open up to this close friend also and try to hang out with her friends too. It might seem weird, but honestly it would probably work.
If you ever need anymore advice, I'm always checking my column everyday. So please don't hesitate to contact me:)
-TheTeenGirl
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Thank you so much for the advice
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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.
I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
So anyway I'm here again. It's been a long time, but I still love giving advice and still plan on it in the future.
Everyone should feel free to Private Message me for advice, I can be harsh, but I'm always trying to help someone by giving them the truth they need.
About My Ratings:
I enjoy ratings. And if I ask a question on here, I always rate the person. If you work hard to give advice, you deserve to be rated.
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Website: Gender: Female Age: 17 Member Since: January 18, 2005 Answers: 1364 Last Update: December 8, 2007 Visitors: 82422
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