Member Since:
February 13, 2007Answers:
449Last Update:
January 2, 2012Visitors:
30564Favorite Columnists
Razhie
orphans
HectorJr
Daimeera
Main Categories:
Love Life
Mental health
View All
about
I hope that if you come to this site, you feel at least some reassurance. Life is messy, life isn't perfect, and I love that there is a place, virtual as it is that can acknowledge this. I don't pretend to be perfect or know everything, but I promise that if you ask me a question, or if I see one and take an interest, I will answer it as best I can.Check out my forum here:
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=41589
to post/comment on a topic =]
advice
hey i am 15/f and my friend robert and i are really close and we are such good friends. we both know we like eachother as more than friends, and we have hooked up before. but the thing is, when we hang out we usually dont end up kissing or anything cause we have such a friend and joking around relationship that it seems weird and we always just have a great time doing other stuff. what are some fun ways i can let him know i want him to kiss me, or even funny ways or things i could do to kiss him. or even ways to change the conversation casually to a more intesne one about like us or romantic based.
thanks! : ]
I can't tell you the magic words that you can say to Robert to ensure a romantic conversation or a kiss. That would be me programming you! But I'll try to give you some general direction.
1. Body language. Actions do speak louder than words, and a lot of what will encourage a guy to kiss you isn't really what you say. Lean into him, but also look slightly shy. Lean your head to one side, or bite your lip. Stay close to him and touch him, maybe not in an obvious way, but whatever's comfortable for the both of you. It's a bit of a balance. You don't want to go overboard until it's awkward, just keep it up to try to get him to look into your eyes as much as you can. You can try holding his hand, putting your arm around him, leaning into him, resting your head on his shoulder.
2. Be playful. It's all about having fun, and feeling good about what you are doing. Teasing him is a good way to keep the mood lighthearted - not mean spirited stuff so laugh and smile enough so that he knows you are kidding, and don't be afraid to do create excuses to touch him. Ei, he's eating a chocolate, he seems to be in a good mood, so you tease him by stealing the chocolate and leaning over so your faces just got accidentally really close and you are practically holding hands. Then pull away like you never meant to do that, so he feels the vibes of attraction from being close to you but at the same time can't have you and isn't sure if that was on purpose or not - drives guys nuts.
3. Smile. Big important one, in general. And just relax a lot, make jokes and laugh if he says something funny (though not like hahahhahaha fake laugh but you know, having a good time in each other's presence, laughing when you actually think he said something funny). Though I'm assuming you do this anyway so...
4. To bring it up, you could just take a moment to look into his eyes, or just act more serious for a moment, and see what happens. Make sure you are close to him. If you are close enough it often indicates you want to be kissed.
5. You could turn a joke into something more serious. For example, he never stops talking. To this, you could say "I know a way to shut you up." And kiss him. Or, if you go somewhere really pretty, you could say "It feels like something should happen here" and look really deep into his eyes. You could try stealing his chocolate, except don't use your hands, and try to grab it out of his hands with your mouth, when his hand is really close to his lips (that one was sortof a product of an overactive imagination). Or you could probably find much cheesier lines on the internet, I'm sure =P lol. The best things, however, probably come with the situation and some imagination.
6. Mood. If you are always going to busy places in the daytime full of lots of people, then the likelihood of romantic subjects and gestures is going to decrease. The best way to get in the mood is, however, probably to start off like this, so both of you are relaxed, but make sure there is more time while you are together, alone, when it is fairly dark. Yes, the darkness factor does sound random, but people often act differently at night in quiet places than during the day.
7. I'm a little unsure of your question, since you didn't mention if you are trying to start a relationship or if it's more casual than that (sounds more casual to me). It may be that Robert feels strange kissing you or acting more romantic because although he likes you you are technically friends. Somehow you need to mention the fact that you want to be more serious, straight up and honest. If you want to be in a relationship or if you want to start dating you should probably be extremely straight up and tell him this, or at least present the option in a way that you'll know he'll get it when you are, say, asking him out. Some good ways to do this are asking him to a dance, going to a movie/dinner (although they aren't the best dates, because they are more traditional the other person will get it that you are asking them out), or mentioning the word "date" when you ask him somewhere. Or, if he is truly your friend, the best option is probably to not worry so much about sounding cute or casual but just have the conversation.
(final point) I mean, honestly, it is ideal to have a non-awkward perfectly romantic introduction to a conversation that is deep and meaningful and ends in a passionate kiss, but you need to be a little realistic. The main thing isn't really how you have that conversation because the truth is, there is no real right way to do it. No matter how awkward it is the main important part is that you risked awkwardness, you took that jump. Whoever takes it will be admired for that, and he will not judge in any way how you do it (if he really does like you). If you have a great friendship, it is weird to suddenly pull out flowers. But while you don't have that element of surprise charming the other person, you do have the ability to talk to each other which can be interesting for relationship hopefuls who are not friends. So talk to him, and maybe say how you feel about him, and then you could just ask how he feels about you. And if that moment comes up when you just feel like kissing him - oh it will come up if you spend enough time alone together, just go right ahead and do it, all casual lead ins aside.
(Rating: 5) you're awesome! i will try this alllll!