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Q: I used to be very shy, and due to it, my ex broke up with me. So yeah, realized that I had to change, because it showed me how bad I really was.

So I promised myself I'd get better, and I did. Now I'm outgoing, and since I regret not making those friends I could have made, I try to interact with everyone. I don't let myself get intimidated like I used to be.

Sooo, of course, there's a guy I like, and it's weird, because I had always referred to him as God-like, I guess because he was everything I LOVED (as corny as it sounds) but he was my boyfriend's (now ex) friend and so I wasn't crushing or anything.
So, sounds good, right? Made a resolution, going along with it...yeah, sounds good. Except that now that I like the guy, I'm going back to the same problem. Like, I gave him a big smile and thumbs up (it was at a soccer practice and I came to watch him)but when he came over I froze up.

Ugh! I felt so stupid, like, I was the one who invited him over but when he came, other people talked to him and I was just blushing like an idiot.
Help, please. Don't want to repeat any mistakes!
The secret to being outgoing and not freezing up is to be confident in yourself. And you should start by not calling yourself an idiot. What you did was normal and you just need to rough it and be talkative until you know him better and then before you know it, you'll feel a lot more confident around him.

You have to remind yourself that there isn't anything wrong with saying what you want and if a guy doesn't like what you say and what you're about, then they shouldn't be apart of your life in the first place. So, don't be afraid to talk and really put yourself out there because at the end of the day, it's you and you have to learn to make people deal with you as a person.

-TheTeenGirl

Thanks a bunch =D

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TheTeenGirl
My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.

I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
So anyway I'm here again. It's been a long time, but I still love giving advice and still plan on it in the future.

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