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Q: I'm currently in High School, and I want to become a psychologist when I get older. Basically I won't deny anyone, whether personally I like them or not. I really love it when people confide in me and I find a lot of enjoyment in making people happy.
But, recently it's been sapping out my confidence (I've been told that I won't be able to make a difference, therefore they doubt me) and it really seems like whenever something makes me happy, someone's going to come up and cry at me until I feel guilty for feeling happy a second before.
For example, I've been receiving a lot more than passing glances from the guy I've liked (his best friend was my ex so it was very awkward). So I'm merrily walking away until someone calls me to lash out because they can't deal with their problems, but refuse to let me help 'em. I don't want to distance myself from the classmates who might need me, but I can't stop myself from feeling so down about it.
Advice would be greatly appreciated =)
Sorry it's long.
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I think you should really try understanding that being a good psychologist doesn't mean making everyone elses problems' your problems.
It really just means that when someone is lashing out or is really in need, you do whatever you can to help this person and not let it get in the way of your life and your wants. It's not selfish to be happy with yourself and your life when people around you have lives that are worse. That's why God made people like you, to help people who are in need of how to be happier with life like you are.
Just like later on you'll have a few problems where you'll need to go to someone. You want to go to someone whose happy and confident because you'll get nothing if you go to a negative person.
When someone asks you for help and then refuses to let you, you should say something, like: "I really want to help you, but you seem to be pushing me away a lot. When you feel like talking about it, I'm here"
So don't feel guilty for being a happy person. It's very good that you can help people and feel great about it while feeling great about your life.
-TheTeenGirl
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Thanks again, it really helps =)
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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.
I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
So anyway I'm here again. It's been a long time, but I still love giving advice and still plan on it in the future.
Everyone should feel free to Private Message me for advice, I can be harsh, but I'm always trying to help someone by giving them the truth they need.
About My Ratings:
I enjoy ratings. And if I ask a question on here, I always rate the person. If you work hard to give advice, you deserve to be rated.
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Website: Gender: Female Age: 17 Member Since: January 18, 2005 Answers: 1364 Last Update: December 8, 2007 Visitors: 82434
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