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There was a guy that went to my school that was my age and seemed to have a good, normal life... I mean, he had friends, girlfriends, good grades, played sports... and I just found out like twenty minutes ago that tonight he killed himself. I had only talked to him once ever. I just don't know how to feel right now. I don't know how to help my friends deal with this... I don't know much because there hasn't been anything on the news yet because it happened just a few hours ago. I guess I am just looking for words of advice, or experience... thank you, everybody.

I answered a question like this in the past, so I am going to just post what I said to them.

I know you have gotten many answers like this one, but I, too, went through this perdicament.

I did Cross Country for my school, and I was having a hard time with certain things. There was a guy whom was a Senior. He had a heart of gold and a smile that could cheer anyone up. He helped me through so much.

After the season ended, him and I didn't really talk anymore. Just a simple Hi in the hallway on occation. Sometimes would sit with him at lunch, mostly because my friends sat there. Couple months later, 4/20 to be exact, all of the teachers were told to read an email that they have received. My english teacher read out loud that someone had committed suicide the night before. We asked who it was and he said the guys name. It was so unreal.

So unreal.

Everyone who knew him in some sort of way went down to the library. Though I was not close to him, it still hurt that someone I knew hurt so much to kill himself. He was 17 years old, and 2 months away from graduating.

That whole day was just a blur. I was with my friends the whole time just walking around.

What made it worse what that I wasn't close to him either, but seeing his best friend's faces was heartbreaking.

My best friends were close to him, and it was the first time I have seen any of them cry.

Just knowing someone who has died is a horrible feeling, a feeling that you cannot decribe.

It makes you realize that it can happen to anyone, and to really pay attention to different feelings of people.

Cherish your friends and your family, they are there for you no matter what. Be a shoulder for them to cry on, and listen to everything they say.

Don't forget him, pray for him.

It's a hard concept, but if you keep him close to your heart, and stay close with your friends, you will be able to handle it.

Be strong, and I am sorry for your loss

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(Rating: 5) thank you very much.

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