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Hi, im dating my ex again. We dated for about 7 months last time. And well, towards the end of our last relationship it was almost like we werent compatiable, fighting about stuff that was just dumb. And this time, its basically the same stuff. I wanted to be with him so much, but i think the dream of it is better than reality. He gets mad if i hang out with other guys, and most of my friends are guys. And i just dont know what to do, i tried to get it through his head that this is going to ruin us, but he just doesnt know what to do, and im the same way.

Help?

THanks

This sounds EXACTLY like my relationship I just ended two days ago. He and I also dated for seven months and it ended with jealousy and fighting. Anyways, I'll tell you this that I hope you'll always remember:

Things Will Never Be the Same the Second Time Around.

I'm sorry to tell you this, but most of the time girl's don't actually miss the boy, they miss the way things with the boy used to be. I've noticed this with several friends. I also noticed this with my best friend and her on again/ off again boyfriend. Eventually, she had to break up with him for good to simply move on a be happy. I'm afraid thats what you'll probably have to do unless you two can handle this relationship like adults and put forth your best efforts. Other then that, maybe call it quits if nothing changes in the next few weeks. Try spending times doing something new, with old friends, or joining a club. I promise you it will be hard, but one day you'll realize he was just a chapter of your life. Best of luck to you and your heart.

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