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well i like this guy. he's not particularly good looking or anything, but something about his personality attracted me to him. the thing is, he's REALLY different. like really different. not different like has a mental issue or something, but just the way he thinks is unlike that of anyone i've ever met, or probably will meet in the future. he's very smart. he has a very high IQ. he doesn't study though, or do his homework, so people think he's dumb. like a mini einstein or something.

well, he told me (cause we are friends) that he likes this other girl & that he doesn't have a chance with her, etc. etc. all this stuff. so he hasn't really been talking about her recently or anything, but i know he still likes her, even a little.

he has the effect on people "can't live with me, can't live without me." when i talk to him, he makes me so frustrated because of the way he phrases things, and how he uses big words. but i still like talking to him. when i'm not talking to him, i wish i was talking to him. it's really complicated. i've seen us together in my dreams, but i still feel like we don't CONNECT.

he has a really big issue, which is that people judge him and don't treat him the way he wants to be treated. so i told him, because i care about him, that he should tell them to stop if it hurts him. he then shot down my idea like it was the stupidest thing in the world and gave all this bull about how he's for "the good of the people" and not selfish. so that really frazzled me. that's his only problem, and i don't know how to help him. i feel like if i helped him, he'd really like me... but there's no solution that's simple in his eyes to his problem.

one of my really good friends "stole" him from me. you see, it's like a square. my crush's best friend likes me, and i'm friends with his best friend. by the way, here are the genders:

myself - female
my really good friend - female
my crush - male
my crush's best friend - male

so, i think he likes her more. who does he like more? he's so much nicer to her, and i'm so hurt. i don't need advice persay, but i need a PSYCHIC to tell me what he's thinking.

i was just wondering, what does he think of me? does he strongly dislike me? does he like me? i have no idea what he thinks of me.. at all. i mean some people are easy readers and i know right away how they view me, i can do that with pretty much anyone, but man, this guy is... IMpossible to read. can you help me? & also, should i ever tell him i like him? his best friend likes me... what should i do?

thank you so much, askjr. i really appreciate it!

I'm sorry it took so long to answer. My daughter was killed in a car accident the 12th, just 3 days before you asked me this question.

You answered your own question-- quote: "i wish i was talking to him. it's really complicated. i've seen us together in my dreams, but i still feel like we don't CONNECT."

You don't connect. He is one of those too intelligent people and will not pair off with a girl any less IQ than he. Give it up-- you are normal, and he isn't.

He is liking you, liking her, and other girls, but the shoe(s) don't fit. He moves on, until he'll find the right pair.

Just remain friends, and let it work itself out.

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(Rating: 5) i'm so sorry about your daughter. thank you for taking the time to respond to this. i hope the best for you ♥
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