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Okay, so there's a guy that I really like; he's really nice, sweet, funny, and we share a lot of the same interests. We flirt with each other sometimes

I asked him to dance at the school dance, and he said that he just wanted to go shoot some hoops.
Then, to make matters worse...
His friends came up to me at the dance like 10 minutes later, asking me if I still wanted to dance with him.
Then they were like pulling him towards me, and he kept running away!!!
Then I saw him after the dance in the hallway when I was going to my locker, and we were both blushing so badly... lol

Cause my friend gave him this note like 6 months ago, saying it was from me, and she signed my name in cursive to make him think that it was from me!!! It was one of those, check Yes or No if you want to go out... And, of course, in Science class he said he didn't want to go out with me, and then I told him that it was a forgery. But I'm debating on whether he really doesn't want to go out with me, or if he said no because he didn't want to tell my friends his response. Or, I think that one of my friends had a crush on him, too, and by doing that, they knew that he'd say no to me...

Well, anyways, I went to this pizza place yesterday with my family and 2 of my guy friends met us there, too. Well, anyways, we went off to go play some pool and stuff, and then I came back, leaving them there, cause I ran out of money. :( So I was walking outside to our table, when I saw the dude that I like! Right when we both saw each other, he looked like he almost choked on his drink, and his eyes were all big! :S So, anyways, I went back to go play foosball with my 2 guy friends - me versus them. So we started playing, and then the dude that I like came up and was watching us play. And, of course, when he came up to us, I was all nervous and was totally sucking at the game. :S So now I'm really mad that I didn't ask him if he wanted to be goalie on my team... :(

Then, last night I went to the high school football opening game, and he was there! My friends that I was with said that he kept on staring at me! :S

What should I do? Does he like me, or am I just wasting my time? :(

Thanks

It sounds like your friends just really enjoy social drama. They really really want you guys to be together because you guys obviously like each other and they have no love lives of their own (just an assumption from what I read) either that, or if they do there's nothing really interesting for them going on in that field. As far as they are concerned, you are lucky that you guys like each other and they want it to work out and happen immediately so they have something to do and something to talk about.

It seems like you are both really shy (you and the guy you like) so this is making both of your friends groups feel the need to get rid of the shy for you! Make everything happen because you are slower and they are more capable. As for what you should do. Ask him out, if you want to, but be aware that things could maybe feel too fast for both of you just because of all of the pressure from your friends. Tell your friends (and possibly his) to back off if they are making you uncomfortable (sounds like they are) that it is your "relationship" and not theirs, that you do like each other but will work things out in their own time. Keep flirting with the object of your affection and do not be afraid to bask in the attention that your friends are now paying you, they are going to embarrass you/ make you uncomfortable when you have a crush because in some ways that's just what friends do. Don't worry. When they like someone else you can have your fun :P

Oh in case this wasn't clear from before, he does like you, even if his friends are making it awkward.

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(Rating: 5) Okay, thank you.

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