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Candace Rae- the topic of everyone's coversations. Keep my name in your dome & out of your mouth. :] My parents were blessed on March 31st, 1994. I'm 13 years young, but I stride to act mature but it's not usually easy. I'm a good time. I'm a learning wakeboarder and my longest record of staying on the board is 13 seconds. WOOHOO! My second home is the soccer field, no lie. If I'm listening to hip-hop/rap/r&b I'm usually happy. Try to take my music away from me & see what happens. I can't stand people who haven't listened to 2 minutes of my music & assume it's negative. I will speak my mind until I knock some sense into them. Anyways I live in New England so I'm at the beach A LOT. Don't be stupid and ask if I live in England because I will tell you to pay more attention in geography class. I'm the type of girl who'd wear Red Sox clothes to a Yankee Game. Now let's see you top that, biotch.I have a problem with liars & ditchers. I also have a problem with people who diss soccer. Soccer is the national sport in every country except the United States. Yeah foo' I think that speaks for itself.
I love love love Dunkin Donuts. Yummy! Coconut iced coffee & Tropical Fruit Smoothies make my day. Speaking of things I love, Abercrombie and Fitch is definitely one of them. I have a Sidekick and I treat it like my baby. It comes with me everywhere and that's the way I like it. =)
Ima huge flirt & if I see a hot guy, I'll go up to them and say "I'd tap that, bang that, slap that." Haha I don't care. [:
I tend to cause a scene.... EVERYWHERE. =]
Ask me for advice, I promise I won't give you the answer you want to hear. I'll do my best to help you though.
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I'm 22F, and I've been having sex with my boyfriend of several months for about a fortnight. Unfortunately the sex has been a little rocky because he is very jealous about my past. I believe this is an ego thing - I have been with 3 other guys, he has been with around 20 other girls, yet he is the jealous one - go figure!
Anyway, the way he likes to do things in bed is weirding me out a bit, and I was wondering if any of you can tell me if I'm just inexperienced and this is "normal" or if I'm right to feel this way.
The sex starts pretty normally, kissing and foreplay. He tends to put my hands on his penis - I'm a bit shy - and it goes from there. He likes giving me oral sex, and I, him. Then the actual sex starts, and things seem to go downhill. He is the first person I've been with who doesn't seem to want me to *do* anything during sex (is this usual?). Despite his experience and apparent confidence, he has problems holding on (which I suppose is a compliment?). He can go for about 30 seconds to a minute before he has to pull out, breath for a bit, then go again. I try to be supportive and show that I don't mind, but secretly, I find it frustrating. During the sex, he won't look me in the eyes (he never has problems holding eye contact normally). Usually he comes after about 5 minutes, with no warning. The only reason I know that he's come is because he stops pumping (sorry, this is getting graphic!!) and he never shows any pleasure from orgasm.
We usually go through this about three times a night, each session as short. He usually initiates sex but I never refuse - I want to try and make it work. Sometimes (often the third time) he won't come from sex - instead he pulls out, then puts my hand on his penis, or asks for a blow job to finish him off. This is the bit I REALLY don't understand. I thought sex was supposed to be way more pleasurable for guys than blowjobs or handjobs - why does he suddenly want these instead of sex? I don't mind giving him a blowjob (I want him to be happy), but obviously I get nothing sexual out of it, so that's the end of any pleasure for me.
Also, I have never been able to orgasm from sex (or any stimulation that doesn't involve a vibrator, actually), and I told him this at the start of our sexual relationship. This was a mistake, I think, because he doesn't even try with me, or see that I'm quite sexually frustrated. So he gets to orgasm 3, 4, 5 times a day, and I never get to, and he doesn't seem to care....
SIGH! Any comments would be appreciated!
Damn girl looks like all he wants is for HIM to get the pleasure and he doesn't care about you. He's being self-centered & rude. Tell him how you feel. Obviously you've been doing so much for him and having sex whenever he wants to but tell him YOU want pleasure too. Ask if you can try sex a different way and tell him the way it feels good for YOU. If he won't care then leave the bitch. Haha.
You gotta tell him. If I was telling him I would say "when scientists discover the CENTER of the world, don't be surprised when it isn't you." Haha, you probably get that but maybe if you said that to him jokingly he might get that there's a problem. Next time he wants sex, tell him what YOU want, and how YOU want to be pleasured. Be firm and let him know it's bothering you or it will never change.
=) Peace, love, Candace.
(Rating: 5) Haha, thanks heaps Candace, I think the "don't be surprised when it isn't you" comment is bang on, can't wait to try it! Sometimes these guys just need a warning bell to tell them something is wrong, I think. They can be pretty clueless!