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how can i help her she got a new boyfriend who i know my friend bout drugs from him but hes quit they say but she keeps sneking out and drinking with him im her best friend but she dosent listen 2 me how can i help her if she dosen tchange soon il proboly quit talking 2 her cause iv been down that rode and im lucky i got off of it
If she is your best friend then she'll probably listen to you and respect what you have to say, but then again, maybe she won't. She is, after all, her own person, and isn't going to make a decision based on what you think is right; she's going to make a decision on what she thinks is right. Because you guys are good friends, you probably have one of the greatest chances of convincing her that her actions aren't good for her, so don't give up just yet. Try telling your story about your own experiences down that road, as you put it; it'll mean more if you speak from personal experience.
If she doesn't listen, I wouldn't break contact with her. Continue being her friend, hard as it may be. There are so many people who do drink and sneak around to do so, whole crowds that she'll probably start to get initiated into. There's a much greater chance that she won't lose herself completely if there are people like you that she is friends with.
If it helps, think back to your own experience, what helped you get out? Whatever it is may help with your friend. Sadly all this is pretty common, and ultimately there may not be much you can do except be there for her in general as a friend.
(Rating: 5) thanks but im not giving up she saved me from suicide when i put a gun 2 my head so i cant give up i love her 2 much