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Sorry it might be long but please someone read and help me?
I am just wondering, am I living in a fantasy land? Well I am 16/f and I turn 17 in december. (about to be junior in highschool) The thing is, I have been going out with my bf for 3 month and half, about. I am really great it worked out like that because he's been my best friend for about a year eversince my 10th grade year started. We were just acquaintences at the beginning of my 10th grade (he was senior and now he graduated) and we just became really good friends.
When we were just friends, I realized i liked him as more than a friend but I didnt want to admit that because I wasnt sure if he liked me because he is nice to everyone (he was voted most friendliest...) so i was even in denial that i liked him and i went out with couple guys and i always confided in him about guy stuff. I know... not a good idea to talk about a guy with another guy. but he was only one i could really trust and i know he gives me a solid truth. And we both knew i had some "committment issue" yet when it came down, he still didn't judge me differently and asked me out.
Well that's really great because he is such a great guy and he's my best friend and my boyfriend. I truly believe there is no one wonderful like him (even though that is totally my biased opinion :D) We can and do talk on the phone for hours everynight and there's never and dull moment. We can make fun of eachother like crazy and have fun. We have very similar hobbies and its all good.
However nothing can be this perfect. I am not allow to date anybody until i graduate from high school. We are different race and both of our parents dont really want that. He's already graduated (taking off 1 year before going to any college) and I am about to start my junior year.
But I told him I loved him because I do. I really do love him even if some people may say how can a 16 year old girl know. His response was that he believes that you only love one person and only that person in your whole life so when he tells me, that would be tied up with him asking me to marry me. I respect his decision and opinions so no big deal. But lately we've been talking about marrying and all that and everything but the thing is, is there a even chance that this will actually work out? I mean nothing would make me happy if it all worked out like we planned (yes we even planned on where and when to get married... how wonderful..) or is it just a childish fantasy?
What you two have is really special and not something that just happens everyday. I think one of the major problems that the world today has is that we are all way too cynical, and don't want to believe things that are right in front of our faces. You too don't seem to have that problem, and I don't think it would be fair if anyone told you that what you have is a childish fantasy. Who says you can't feel love at any age? In fact, if you want to be scientific, there are studies that have shown that the brain is the most developed at age 14 or 15... But anyway. Personally, I'd wait a while to get married or consider it, if only for everyone else to get used to it and be on your side. And just because it's very different considering marriage in high school than once you've graduated. Don't, however, let your parents or society or anyone else phase being with him or you'll regret it.
Honestly, taking your relationship seriously is not a bad thing. The reason for all the casual sex and friends with benefits is because everyone is scared to do so. Your parents probably don't want you to get involved before university because they want you to be able to have a life ahead of you that you can chose without having anything else tying you down. In any case, I would talk to them about their opinions around this, because they need to respect that you are sixteen and would like to date.
I don't think anyone can really know for sure if your relationship will "work out". All you can really do is enjoy your time with him and live in the moment without really worrying about everything - how young you are, the future. If both of you want it enough and fight for it enough what you have will work. Enjoy what you have; you're lucky for having it and you only live once.
(Rating: 5) THank you so much you helped so much and you give the best advice i ever needed :D