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3 years ago my best best best friend moved legit half way across the country. We still managed to saty the best of friends and got to visit eachother a couple times. then a year later she moved back a couple staes away and i was so happy! we got to see eachother all the time because it was only a few hours away. We called eachother everyday and always had stuff to talk about no matter what. We were the ideal best friends. We have never been in a fight we tell eachother EVERYTHING and were always there no matter what. Well lately we havent been talking much. yes its summer and were both busy and we keep missing eacothers calls and now we hardly even talk. And when i do call her there isnt much to talk about. Its seems weird or something. Im so afaid that were growning apart. I dont know what i would do witout her. I dont want to loose her she means more to me than my family. What should i do?

To "rekindle" your friendship-- first buy a card and mail it to her. You know, one of those "I'm missing you" type cards.

Make a committment to yourself (a promise) to see her on a scheduled, regular basis no matter what. In other words, make the time. Put your other friends and boyfriend, on the back burner that weekend.

Spend the entire weekend at her house, and next time, she can spend the weekend at yours.

Continue to send cards periodically. You can get into a crazy contest to see who sends the funniest card to each other, constantly trying to out do the other. It's fun and satisfying.

Send her a little gift that means something to you both. A little treasure that has significant meaning to you. Maybe a friendship braclet, etc. Or anything that reminds you both of something you once enjoyed or shared together.

If you both have cell phones- text message each other throughout the day, or night, and chat online on a messenger.

Make a point to keep the friendship alive and nurture it as you would any valuable family member.

Use your imagination. Make mental notes to yourself to talk about a movie you saw, or a tv show episode, a music band and song, anything that you both have in common.

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(Rating: 5) thanks ill try some of those. And its kinda funny because we use to send letter back and foth to eachoher and we sent so many we always had trouble finding good or funny ones cuase we had sen them all.

thanks for the advice
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