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I've been away for a while due to a serious illness and subsequent health issues. Favourite quotes of the moment:
The children of Israel wandered the desert for 40 years - Even in biblical times men wouldn't ask for directions!
Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. whatever we do to the thread, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect. - Chief Seattle.
We spend the first 12 months of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. We spend the next 12 years telling them to sit down and shut up!
As you slide down the bannisters of life, may the splinters never be pointing the wrong way.
May you be in Heaven half an hour before the devil knows you're dead.
I've been very happily married since August 1980 to a wonderful man and have beautiful twin girls, now aged 31. Both are married to wonderful young men and one of our girls has recently made us grandparents to a beautiful, smart and feisty granddaughter. I studied geology with the Open University. I am retired from being a manager in a large UK based insurance company which I actually quite enjoyed. (How sad is that?). I love anything to do with the environment and wildlife and try to do my bit for preservation and conservation. I would like there to be a decent world for our grandchildren to inherit. I also have CFS so find life a bit of a challenge at times but always hope for better health in the future.
I have a deep interest in the spiritual and the paranormal worlds, having experienced several incidents myself, and have been involved in meditation groups and groups that (safely) explore the paranormal. There is more to this life than we would normally credit, so an open mind is always the best option. You're not so likely to get caught by surprise!
I have a deep fascination for anything to do with Ancient Egypt, as you can probably tell by my name. I have statues and paintings all around the house. As my hubby has a similar interest in Native Americans, we tend to have a lot of unusual wall decorations, like a tomahawk.
I love cars, especially vintage ones, but my all time favourite has to be the Bugatti Chiron, what a car!
I have had a lot to do with animals over the years. I have fostered many, helped to set up a wildlife charitable hospital and raised a diverse range of young animals from bats to fox cubs and different species of birds, even a baby deer! I have had great pleasure in sharing my life and home with a number of animals over the years, most of them rescues. I am currently sponsoring an Amur Tiger, they are such beautiful cats and desperately need help, there are so few of them left. I was lucky enough a couple of years ago to meet some Aye-Aye's and Livingstone's Bats, a truly wonderful experience. We now have three cats, Oliver and Mollie, a brother and sister, he's a ginger and she's a tortoiseshell and a black and white called Daisy. She arrived in a taxi and was left on our doorstep in a cat carrier with the message that 'they knew we loved cats and would be good to her'. She has settled down well and gets on wonderfully with the other two.
If you have a pet that is showing ANY signs of illness or distress, please, please, please take it to a vet! Even if finance is an issue, work that out later. It is cruel to leave an animal suffering for any reason. Most animals do not show signs of illness until they have been ill for some time, basic instinct tells them it is a display of vulnerability, and certain death in the wild. Their instincts have not caught up with domesticity.
I do feel that we should all treat others as we would wish to be treated. Bad karma comes back to haunt us.
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I have acanthosis nigricans, and ive been taking a kind of medicine that's saposed to help it. There really is no cure, and its not deadly. It's jus a sigh that if I get diabetes, it's a death sentance so yeahh im trying to lose weight and the medicine im using is saposed to get rid of the discoloration. I tried everything before i knew what if was.. and everything hurt ALOT. Well i started using this cream and it showeda diffrence immediatly. It was awsome it was clearing up and now i have blisters on the back of my neck and my moms telling me to stop using it until the doctor figure out why its doing that. But i dont wasnt to I mean it jus started goinf away and its gross looking and everyone at my school thinks I dont shower except a couple people AND I Do its not as easy as soap and water it grows up and out of my skin.. and that cream was my last hope and now i cant use it and i dont wanna be made fun of anymore. So at the moment im crying, lil depressed because I want chocolate and I cant eat it because ill gaina nother 100 pounds and be even fatter and it'll become more black and this SUCKS! I dont wanna tell anyone because i donno what they think and my parents my family no one understand why i feel so hopeless at the moment because its not going away anymore and its gunna get worse and my neck hurts and I just wanna go to bed because im fat, stupid cuz i got my hopes up and they came crashing down and I want chocolate god dammit!
I am so sorry, that must be an awful thing to deal with. Especially if people think it's just dirt. I've had a look at a website and it suggests treatments to just improve the appearance includes Retin-A, 20% urea, alpha hydroxyacids, and lactic or salicylic acid prescriptions. Has the doctor given you anything like this? You could also ask about taking fish oil supplements. It also says that this condition often fades if the underlying cause can be found and treated. So there is hope to hold on to.
If the cream you are using is causing blisters, you really do need to stop using it for now. At least until the doctor has investigated it. The blisters could cause even more problems and you have enough to deal with at the moment.
As for the chocolate, that's a tough one, but if keeping off it for a while helps you to lose weight, you may be able to try a little in a few months. Also, although it will be of little comfort at the moment, usually the longer you go without chocolate the less you crave it. If it's better for your health and wellbeing to diet, go for it. Don't be afraid to let people know you have a health problem, it should help them to understand, and if you try a diet as well, your friends could support you.
Try writing down how you are feeling, pouring everything out in a letter, then either show your parents how badly this has affected you, or burn the letter for release. It may sound strange but it works.
Just try to stay strong, you WILL get through this, just make sure you do everything you can to help yourself and make sure the doctor keeps on top of it as well.
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My necks hurting a lil at the moment so I think im gunna go try that letter burning thing..:) thankx