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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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this is crazy i knw..... i met this guy who considered me one of his best friends. we hung out all the time and did everything couples do together with out the kissing/makingout/sex part. we held hands hugged at one point walked with his shoulder around me and stuff.......

i thought he was gay so i never really considered that there would be anything there...

later though about 7 or 8 months after we met and right be4 we went our separate since he graduated (he's 22 i am 20).... i told him the truth about how in that past month i was a bit infatuated by him..... very very to say the least...... at somepoint i had doubts about him being bi... because his signs of flirting are always direct with both men and women.... and i figured since we're always together and he hasnt sed anything then maybe he was just gay.... anyway .... wen i told him i told him rite after that i hope this dsnt change or alter our friendship he said he was completly fine with and we even went out that night...

a month later:

i still like him a bit since he was honestly the funnest guy i'd been with.... plus he always makes me feel assured about myself....... but its summer and i am abroad and i met this other guy very very formally... and there may be sparks in the middle... i am still not sure i'm going to have to get to knw him.....he's cute and all but the problem is that i still keep thinking about the other guy since i feel its not over yet and since he has been IMing me constantly asking about this new guy.... he sounds pissed and he always says he'd "save " me and misses me and that he wants to elope with me and things..... i miss him too but i don't know what he's trying to get to....

i never asked hiim about his sexuality and i think its stupid to do so now.... what do i do?!

i just need ppls opinions on this situation...

I would ask him how he feels about you. Deffinitly try to stay away from the orientation thing...because, he might get upset with you if he isnt gay or bi. Maybe he does have feelings for you but he is confused about his sexuality. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!


As to your feedback, I'm not sure if this will work for you too see, but hopefully you'll get it. You just need to sit him down and ask him whats the deal, does he like you for real, or s he just into messing with peoples emotions. Hope I helped, I'm sure it'll be fine!!!
-Brina

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(Rating: 5) ah thanx so much!
though i must ask how do you think i shud bring up the topic up? and if he denies wot do i say?! i mean he always ALWAYs jokes about him rescuing me from "tying the knot" -he dsnt agree with it and he blvs its just heartache...his parents are divorced- and i never joke back about it or anything... like wen he asked about the guy i just told him the truth no i had no pics and his age was this and he is that.... etc. so i am not sure how to handle him next time around.... and i am afraid it'll get in the way of me having new relationships..... :s when we were together though he was always in physical contact with me though... as i've said he always tries to be close... but since i am very firm and sort of set limits he dsnt go that far as he duz with his other girl friends (who again too confuse me by saying "all [their] male frnds are really gay" i mean though i've known him for way shorter than they have and they are supposedly his best friends he spends wayyyyy more time with me than anyof them we are basically glued to the hip if we have no class and he usually finds me....

thanx again though for you help!
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