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Hey I'm a sixteen year old girl. Okay.. This guy and I have been talking, you know, that whole deal. I really like him a lot but I go through these "phases", I suppose you could call them, where I'm just very disinterested. The thought of someone being crazy about me and being committed to them just makes me sick to my stomach. At other times, though, I realize it's kinda nice to have someone who cares about me.

I'm not exactly the popular type in school and I haven't had a boyfriend in pretty much a year and a half. Am I just not used to this feeling or am I completely out of my mind? Advice of any kind would be greatly appreciated.

Sounds like a case of hormones and combination of emotional issues.

What in your life has happened to cause you to be skeptical and non-committal? Examine that issue,
then think of what you truly want.

Do you want a committed relationship or a casual non-committal relationship?

It's always nice to have a boyfriend that cares about you if he's nice and not a jerk, of course, but are you forcing the issue to like a guy, or don't really like him 100% and want to?

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