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16/f

ohkay so... i really like this guy we`ll call him kaleb. but kaleb has a girlfriend, but yet... he talks to me more than her sometimes. he tells me that he has to break up with her for the summer. but should i wait? one more thing... i think i like this other guy, call him joe. but see joe lives to far away && i`ll only get to see him on the weekends. i`m the kind of girl that, likes to spend time with her boyfriends.

before i moved i had a HUGE crush (i mean 2 yrs) on this guy, jake. & we still talk && he told me how he feels about me now that i`m away. kinda made me feel deeper for him.

my questions
1) should i wait for kaleb or date joe?
2) is it badd that i like this many guys @ one time?
3)seeing joe only on the weekends better for the relationship?

Ask yourself "why" he has a girlfriend that he "HAS" to break up with "for summer"...and does that mean AFTER summer he'll go back to her?

What's going on here?

There's an answer in there somewhere.

Date Joe and have fun. Kaleb is attached to a girlfriend.

IF, by summer, Kaleb does break up with his girlfriend and you are not in deep with Joe and STILL like Kaleb-- then date Kaleb.

As far as the long-distance boyfriend goes, make up your mind. Don't do this to him. If you can't be faithful to him in a long-distance relationship, then tell him and set him free. Stop leading him on, that is cruel and not morally right. Would you want a guy to do that to you? Ask yourself.

Stop being selfish and immature, and make up your mind or let ALL guys know you are NOT ABLE to committ and WANT to be free to date whoever you want when you want.

Be honest with yourself and them.

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