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15 f
well i have known my bestfriend since the 6th grade and i am in 9th now. we were so close and i love her to death she is like a sister to me! but about 3 months ago she got a boyfriend and thats all she can talk about. she talks about him alot and sometimes i feel like she only calls me to talk about him. talking on the phone is not as much fun as it used to be anymore. i really dont want to tell her that she talks about her bf too much she would get mad
what do i do
what do i say
thansk in adance

You're looking at it one-side--- from your own side, not hers.

She is your best friend. Imagine if you both were in your twenties and engaged and getting married. Well, you'd be helping each other plan the other's wedding, be the maid of honor, etc. etc. and share in the joy. What if then, one was expecting their first baby? Well, you both would be buying baby clothes and planning a baby shower, etc. picking out names together...

It's no different now.

She is excited. She has a boyfriend and she obviously really likes and is sharing that elation with you-- her best friend.

Take it as a compliment and share in her happiness. We all change dear. We all go through different stages in our lives as we mature.

It could be you and your boyfriend and her without one and listening to you rant and rave over how great he is. The shoe could be on the other foot.

Enjoy in her joy and be happy for her.

The next years will change and be ready to change with them-- with her, your best friend.

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