Hey my names Chrissabelle and I love giving advice. I always have. Most of my friends call me Chrissie but really like to be called anything. Well... :p I really would like to be a psycologist when I get older. I love listening to other people, I've always been a good listener and I love to help people to the best of my abilities. I love being with family, hanging out with friends, ice skating, and tennis. I also love to laugh and have fun. Who doesn't? Honestly I just am a really happy person although I can come off really serious to people who don't know me which really sucks. I haven't been answering advice for a few weeks because of numerous reasons but now I'm back and so glad to be able to help everyone again. I really hope I can guys =) That's about it so ask me anything, anytime you need advice and I'll try to help you as best I can!
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ok heres the thing i went to the movies 2 with this kid john ill call him and well he asked me to go to the movies but he never paid or anything and he is mad shy but the thing is he is annoying and stupid but i like him in a way and he is forever talking about his ex how he hates her and shit i guess what im trying to say is hes not so shy when he texts me but in person hes is and i dont know if i like him im thinking of only being friends with him because i dont know if theres anything else there but i was wondering should i get ride of him or should i try to work out my committment problems with him but i really dont think were compatible and maybe im to much for him to handle but i dont know how to break it to him if i do hes the kind of person who will talk a lot of shit and who is not so forgiving please help if you can im sorry if its confusing its confusing me (link)
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Hey. O.k. from what I read it really does sound like you guys don't work together at all. Or it least he doesn't work for you. You sound a lot more outgoing and if he's shy and quiet in person then I don't think he's right for you. He may be really great for someone more like him. If you're his girlfriend then he should feel comfortable around you no matter what. That's what a relationship is about. And I understand that the relationship may be new or he may just be quiet in general but you said he's not while he's texting so I don't think this is the case. If you really want to give him a chance until he gets more comfortable then I guess you could let the relationship go on for a little while since you know he Can be outgoing, he just has to do it in person. It does sound though, as if he is making himself feel better about his ex. by going out with you and letting it all out on you. The problem is that this really isn't a relationship then, for you either because if all he talks about is his ex then that really isn't good. I also notice that you called him annoying and stupid and if you feel this way about your boyfriend (I'm not blaming you or anything, I understand =)) but then you guys sound like you don't work together. He's using you to finally get his emotions out but you're not getting anything out of hearing him complain when he texts, and not hearing anything when you're in person. I understand you're afraid to break up with him because of how horribly he talks about his ex but I would deffinitely do it. Just make sure you're nice about it and try to remain friends so that he doesn't cause any problems with you after you break up. You can eventually find a guy who works out better for you and you'll see why John didn't really work for you. Just tell him you need to figure some things out and for now you still really want to remain friends. This way, you're putting it nicely so he doesn't get upset and if he does I wouldn't worry about it for this reason. If he continues to talk about you to people the way he did with his ex they will get turned off by him after a while and won't even believe some of the things he says. I'm sure he'll be understanding though =). I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
Chrissabelle
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thats what i was thinking but were not going out and he still annoys me imange if we were oh my lord im outspoken when i need to be so thats not a good combo i dont want to make him cry lol thanx you helped alot
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