Hey my names Chrissabelle and I love giving advice. I always have. Most of my friends call me Chrissie but really like to be called anything. Well... :p I really would like to be a psycologist when I get older. I love listening to other people, I've always been a good listener and I love to help people to the best of my abilities. I love being with family, hanging out with friends, ice skating, and tennis. I also love to laugh and have fun. Who doesn't? Honestly I just am a really happy person although I can come off really serious to people who don't know me which really sucks. I haven't been answering advice for a few weeks because of numerous reasons but now I'm back and so glad to be able to help everyone again. I really hope I can guys =) That's about it so ask me anything, anytime you need advice and I'll try to help you as best I can!
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14 FEMALE this is long but please take time to read and answer it!!
So last dance was HOMECOMING and I didn't have a date but I went with friends and it was really really fun...it didn't bother me as much that I didn't have a date because I still had one dance to fall back on and have a date. I know it isn't everything but I really wanted a date for the dance. Sometimes I get really mad because I don't and just have to cry.
I asked a question earlier on how to be outgoing and talk to guys and make other friends. I know that's why I don't have a date, I'm way too shy.
But still doesn't anyone notice me??
I know I know...put yourself out there...BUT I DON"T KNOW HOW!
Why can't I get a date?? I have only had 1 actual boyfriend he asked me, I was in 8th grade he was in 6th... I know pethetic right? But I was really happy, but that fadded and I broke it off.
Anyone give me advice on how to make myself feel beter??
I think I'm depressed about not having a date (I feel worthless)
Not having started my period (therefore I'm flat and it is hard find things for dances that don't show that I'm flat)
I feel left out
I DON'T KNOW WHAT'S WRONG!
HELP ME GET A DATE FOR NEXT YEAR (even though it is a while away)
Help me get my self esteem up about not starting my period so therefore I'm flat (I feel like that is sometimes why guys don't like me) {im not totally flat i just feel that way i do have some cush} [i have not but either so it makes it hard to find clothes] (im really really small...people tell and ask if im annorexic...IM NOT...rumors get passed around like that all the time)
SELF ESTEEM IS ON EMPTY!!!
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Hey. I'm the same age as you and I just got my period about six months ago so I wouldn't feel bad. My best friend is 14 and just got hers about a week ago. I have another friend who still doesn't have it. So DON'T feel bad about that!
You should be happy you're free and you don't have it yet and as for flatness most teens at fourteen aren't chesty yet. It's not your fault you're super skinny (which is great!) and people are probably just jealous so don't feel bad. Everyone wishes they could be that way without having to diet and excercise all the time so you are so lucky in two ways now. You have low self esteem because you're doing this to yourself. It's not that other people don't like you, it's that you don't have enough confidence in yourself.
You're not happy with who you are and I Know you're an amazing person. You said you went with friends to homecoming which is great! Some kids don't even have friends to go with =( especially dates! The girls who get dates really want that and they push for it which is why they have dates. Don't concentrate on getting a date for next year but just try to be as friendly and fun as possible and what you deserve will come to you on its own.
I know about of about 15 girls our age who have never had dates and they're some friends of mine. There are probably tons more. If you want to up your self-esteem just try looking at old pictures or vidoes of yourself throughout the years and if it helps listen to music. Think about what a great and meaningful life you've had. I do this whenever I'm down.
If you don't have pictures or vidoes just think of things from memories. As long as you're friendly, fun and nice at all times possible you will find someone you really deserve rather than pushing for a date for next year. Don't worry about it. You have so many people that love you I'm sure and who knows? There could be a guy who secretly likes you. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Thanks so much...your advice really helped be look at things differently (in a positive way)!
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