Hey my names Chrissabelle and I love giving advice. I always have. Most of my friends call me Chrissie but really like to be called anything. Well... :p I really would like to be a psycologist when I get older. I love listening to other people, I've always been a good listener and I love to help people to the best of my abilities. I love being with family, hanging out with friends, ice skating, and tennis. I also love to laugh and have fun. Who doesn't? Honestly I just am a really happy person although I can come off really serious to people who don't know me which really sucks. I haven't been answering advice for a few weeks because of numerous reasons but now I'm back and so glad to be able to help everyone again. I really hope I can guys =) That's about it so ask me anything, anytime you need advice and I'll try to help you as best I can!
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I am 28 now, graduated from high school 10 years ago. I am taking part in planning our high school reunion and I was looking through my old yearbooks, for phone numbers and stuff. I came across a note from a guy I always knew was in love with me, but he was a nerd so I never gave him a chance. I was good friends with him, when no one was looking. I always kinda had a crush on him too, but could never go there. I remember him writing this note, but I guess I never really looked into it.
Here is what he said in 11th grade:
"Well, what a crazy year! It went by too fast. By the way, the reason why I didn't go to the prom was because I didn't know how I could handle seeing you with your date. Oh well, I have to live with that now. I'm sure you kow my feelings about you. But I know you just want to be friends. I can handle that. Until then, see you in my dreams. Your Imzari, Rob"
He never would tell me what Imzari meant, and of course none of my friends knew. And this was before you could just look up anything on the internet :)
Here is what he said senior year:
"I really can't say anything more. I guess I have already said it all. See you in 20 years. Love, Rob"
I spoke with him maybe twice since then. We have both grown up and got married. I am happy, but I do sometimes think of him.
I looked up what Imzadi meant today, it means soulmate, beloved, first. It's roots are in fantasy but it's conception is in the soul. How deep is that?? Oh my god, it made me cry! I think that's the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me!
My question is, what do I do when I see him? I want to tell him that I was sorry for letting my social status get in the way of how he felt about me and how I secretly felt about him, and I want to tell him that I looked up the word Imzadi and I know what it means. We are both married, and I am happy- I am not looking to leave my husband or anything, I love him. But I am wondering if it is appropriate to say those things, or maybe I should just leave it alone. Maybe I should just give him a hug and say how happy I am to see him. I really do want him to know that I am sorry, and that I looked up that word. I just don't want to cause any problems.
What do you think???
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Hey. Wow that was really touching to read =). But anyways, this guy obviously really loved you and he probably still thinks about you from time to time. I think it would be really nice to give him closure and tell him how you feel. He will be so happy to know this rather than always feeling like he was the guy who wasn't good enough for you. Now, I'm not saying you made him feel this way at all but I just mean that when you like someone so much and they just wanted to be friends (which is totally ok), he probably felt that way. I would tell him that you really did always like him and that it made you cry when you looked up that word. He would really appreciate it. Obviously I wouldn't do this around your husband or his wife because as you know they wouldn't understand why you were doing this =). Anyways, I think it would make him feel really good if you told him all this and gave him closure. It will probably make you feel a lot better too! I really hope I helped and good luck! =)
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That's really good advice! I peeked at your profile and I was shocked to see how young you are. You really should follow your dreams and persue a career in psychiatry! Anyway, I am going to take your advice, it's exactly what I was looking for. Thank you so much!
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