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♥♥♥♥♥♥The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.
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okay. i'll apologize that this may be long..
i have a wonderful boyfriend. we've been together 10 months. for being freshman, we're doing pretty good. we've only gone as far as fingering/handjob, & hes not a pushy guy at all. the only thing is that he gets really jealous. and i "flirt" a lot. especially with one boy in particular named john. well, john and me are good friends. and john likes me but i've made it clear that i love my boyfriend, and he understands but still says he likes me.
now my boyfriend recently said that it seems like i enjoy talking to john more than i like talking to him & thats not true at all but my boyfriend is convinced that i like john. and i dont ! i just can't get him to believe me
i love my boyfriend. and you may think that im just saying love, but trust me. i mean it more than you guys know. he is amazing. but we always seem to end up fighting over john. it'd just be better if he didn't exist at all. but since that's not going to happen, i need some advice on what to do.
* to get my boyfriend to believe that i dont like john
* to stop "flirting" with guys
* to become a better girlfriend, because right now, i just feel like crap.
please&thanks!
One of the most important things in a relationship is trust. It's actually common to be jealous but your boyfriend needs to believe you and trust you that you would never leave him for John, and that you love him very much.
Of course you can't just magically make John disappear (wouldn't that make things better!) But obviously you can't.
Show him how much you love him. Get him a gift, and be there more for him. Still hang out with John. As long as you are a very faithful person and you have a good record in relationships then your boyfriend shouldn't worry. Keep reminding him you love him.
You two sound like a great couple! But if you are very faithful and reliable, and your boyfriend still had problems between your friendship then John, then that isn't a true boyfriend. If he really loved you, he would believe you, and he would trust you. Tell him that, because it'll make him realize you and John are just friends and you and your boyfriends are SOO much more than that.
Keep talking it over. Tell him you are always there for him!
And for the flirting. Remind yourself you have a devoted relationship with someone and you shouldn't go around flirting. It is hard, but if you really want this relationship to work you are going to have to sacrifice the flirting. Your boyfriend is the only person you should flirt with. It's common to flirt even when taken (a lot of teenagers do that even when in relationships). I wouldn't say it's normal but it's common, but if you want the relationship to work, devote all of your love to your boyfriend and not other guy friends.
And no matter what you do, you can't make yourself a perfect girlfriend. Your boyfriend needs to take the flaws you have while you should take the flaws he has. Fights and arguments are inevitable, but always be there for him. And that goes back to his jealousy problem. Prove to him he is the one you want; not John. Take him out on dates more often and kiss him more. That can convince him that you still love him, and you will be there for him.
You sound like a wonderful person just from asking how to work this relationship out because that shows to me that you care about him and your relationship. So you are already proving that you are a good girlfriend for caring. =]
(Rating: 5) thanks! :]