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Hey, I'm Mara. I love dancing. It's practically my favourite thing to do. I love House, R&B, pretty much everything with a good beat, and Benny Benassi is my hero; that's why my column is a shrine to him. I graduated this year and am now in my first year of college where I'm trying to pick a major. Chances are you'll see some of my Psychology questions floating around somewhere here. I'm also extremely interested in Political Science too because I, like half the people living in Canada, somehow want to change the world. I particularly want to find a cure for poverty, corruption, cancer, AIDS and George Bush because honestly, I think those are the biggest problems we have right now. I have decided that maybe I should take the time to live a little before I start though because I have a good fifty years ahead of me to fix all the issues there are. Currently my life consists of: studying, working, socializing, eating and ocassionaly sleeping. I spent practically all of my high school life being a delinquent and partying to huge extents until I discovered my brain sometime in the middle of my senior year. I still like to have a good time every once in a while but you always need to find that balance (I haven't exactly found it yet but I'm getting close). Unfortunatley, a habit that has stuck with me from school is my obsessive gossiping. I just can't stop and you know, an article in Cosmo says that gossipers are healthier people because they bond over it? Who would have thought? Anyway, I do have my limitations and I don't condone nasty, brutal gossiping and I don't gossip about anything my friends have told me in confidence or something about someone else that they have slipped to me, however, if I find you in a washroom at a random party making out with my bestfriends's boyfriend, a few people are probably going to hear about it. Actually, more than a few people will hear about it because one of my absolute pet peeves is parties where the all the bathrooms are occupied due to sexual activity or... puking activity. Sooooo what else is there to know about me? My favourite thing in the world is shopping and my worst fear is existantialism. I am OCDey in a clinical way so you can ask me questions about that. You can ask me practically anything you want except for dumb questions but I'm not going to answer them in my little column here because it's a huge waste of space when I could be writing about myself (Click 'LookIt' on my menubar for answers to dumb questions so you don't have to embarass yourself asking them and getting bitched out from me). What I can do, is offer you three pieces of truly inspirational advice. Firstly, never live your life by what others want of you, cherish yourself and everyone around you, and never beat yourself down about anything you couldn't have avoided. Secondly, donate at least ten percent of the income you earn in your life to someone who needs it. Lastly, never get into a bulldozer when you're under the influence and start driving it towards a poor freshmen (I am never going to another kegger ever again... ever). Ok, I'll shut up now. You can start asking me stuff, if you haven't hit the back button already.
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Alright. So for whoever actually goes on advicenators, KEEP READING. Seriously, I REALLY need advice and I don't know who to talk to about it. I WILL RATE 5's for anybody who actually like tries to give a good- like really good answer. Okay this might be long but please. So, I need advice on a couple things, one of which is like at school, people call me a lezbo- WHICH I AM TOTALLY NOT. Like people (even popular) say it sometimes to my face, behind my back, or like say something kinda like "So make out with any hot girls lately" or something like "Yeah, you would look really good with all your hair chopped off- like a dyke", pretty much something like that in a really wise ass way. And I know from reading this you probably think I'm a total nerd, but I'm actually average. People are usually nice to my face but still, it really bugs me thats everyone once in a while people I don't even know, or do, talk about me and say stuff that they don't even know is true. I really would like for someone to help me GET OVER THIS and GET THIS TO STOP. It started last year so I really really want this to stop. I mean I would rather be known as a slut then a lezbo (no offense to anyone). I know I shouldn't care, but it's not something you can really not care about. I don't know maybe its because I never had a boyfriend (not like i don't want one, but that anyone who ever asks me out I don't want to go out with because either i don't know them, or they are one of my best friends) PLEASE! I really need advice, I get so upset about it. One more is, I really need help making new friends. Like I have about only three friends that I actually hang out with outside of school and act like myself around and then the other people are either from other towns or we only hang out once. I have like friends in school, but not the kind that you want to talk to on the computer or call or hang out with. I know its kind of pathetic, but I really do need to make new friends. I'm kid of shy at school and I know if I just acted like how I do around my normal friends (funny and like loud and around guys a total flirt) that I most likely could be in with the "popular kids". ha. yeah so all I want to do is have those rumors stop, and make a WHOLE new bunch of friends. One of my best friends,Casey, ALWAYS hangs out with me and kinda sorta follows me. Im pretty much her only friend because she NEVER talks in school. I really need to kinda of pull away from here because I'm spending all my time with her and not focusing on meeting new people&makin new friends.
Please help.!!!!
Aww, I totally know what you're going through. Rumors about hook ups with boys, lies about things happening at parties, are in no means appropriate in any discussion. High school is cruel, but I've never had anything said straight to my face so I guess I've had it lucky.
Being called a lesbian isn't a bad thing but being called that, as an insult is pretty bad.
First of all, there is probably a reason why they call you one. Try to pinpoint that out. Was there a rumor going on about you and someone? Did you do anything to make someone in the popular group "mad"? If it's something straight forward, just cut it at the root and the rumors will fade away. If there is one girl who is mainly the one insulting you, confront her.
If that isnâ??t the issue, the way to ease out of this is to make your orientation clear. If you dress like a boy, start dressing more like a girl. Start mentioning hot guys (celebrities or in real life) in conversations and stick a picture of a half-naked male actor in your locker, with a few pictures of your friends and clothed casts of movies you like. Make sure you do this slowly and be discreet, donâ??t t start talking about guys out of no where or it will seem like youâ??re trying too hard.
When people make jokes about you, be sure to rebut them. If anyone asks you if you've made out with a girl recently, just respond with a casual, "oh yeah, honey, don't you remember last weekend?"
If you think youâ??re an extrovert, you should totally act that way at school too. Donâ??t be afraid to let your own true self shine. And honestly, donâ??t try to be friends with those popular girls if theyâ??re calling you a dyke behind your back. If thatâ??s the type of popular girls they are, you donâ??t need them to be your friend because eventually theyâ??ll drag it up again when theyâ??re in a messy situation. Instead, open yourself up to new people. Join clubs and donâ??t be afraid to speak your mind whenever you feel like it. If you donâ??t have the confidence yet, fake the confidence and eventually, it will come. Just donâ??t leave all your other friends behind too. Iâ??ve gone through a lot of groups of friends, especially after I graduated, and I still party with people in high school sometimes even though I donâ??t spend every second of my spare time with them.
And donâ??t promise to give everyone 5s. Thatâ??s a good way to get your question deleted.
Good luck.
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haha k i wont do the 5 thing. yeah but i deffinatley do not dress like a guy ha. yeahh thankss =]
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