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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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I'm a 14/f and I dont have a best friend. I mean I have friends.... but they're not that close. Like a lot of people I know, are going to the mall with their best friends, and since i dont have a best friend, i'd only have a chance to go to the mall with my mom... ughh and I soo totally dont want to do that.
Well, my point is that in school, we have about 20 minutes before school to do anything we want. And well I am hanging out with my "friends" and they don't really include me... so if they're having a conversation, and I ask a question, they wont answer me and just ignore me. I always feel so alone. I know you might say "just have you're family be your best friends" but I REALLY dont want to have my family be my best friends. I want someone that's my age, and who I can have sleepovers with, and go to the mall with, and just hang out with... but none of my friends don't like me that much. It's like this world doesn't even know I exist.
So my question is How can I stand out to people and try to make friends? Is there any tricks to making a best friend? What should I do about these so called "friends"? Keep talking to them? Ignore them?
I mean, if I start talking to them, they'll just change their mood into like an annoying mood. Suuuure they'll talk to me, but its about something really stupid like "what was the homework assignment for monday?"
Sometimes, if one of my friends, doesn't have anyone to talk to at the time, they'll come to me and start talking to me, but it's not the talking you think it is... its probably more like bragging. Like one of them likes to dance, and if she doesn't have anybody to talk to, she'll come up to me and say "oh my gosh, I can't remember my tap dance sequence... Oh yeah it goes ____" and then she'll like dance infront of me, and like show off.
I don't know what's wrong with me, it's like i'm a back-up friend to everybody... I feel so alone and my subject said "what happens to a lonely person in life?" well... what happens? Will I turn out to be some person who doesn't have a purpose in life?
How can I fix this? I'm SOOOO CONFUSED!!!!!!!!
HELP ME!
Lol, okkk. Don't worry about being a lonely person, or anything in your life. Chillll. This kinda similar thing happened to me, kinda. Only I like, pushed them away, & like.. I would actually like show off & stuff like that, & they got annoyed, because their alot more down to earth then I am. haha, but thats ok. So, anyways, thats when I decided these people, were obviously not really like me, they were cool & all, but they were interested in different things, & didn't wanna do the things I do. I then, started talking to this one group of girls, who were like my long lost twin sisters, they were crazy, but they new when to be & not when to be, & they were in to like abercrombie, chanel & stuff like that, like how i am.
I started talking them, by just making small chat, even such as.."whats the homework?" or "did you see that movie..." or "have you seen the cute new winter clothes at abercrombie?" and etc. Thats how it started. I then started calling them, alot. dropping little comments to them, about their outfits, or hair or something. [commliments, can really make someones day, & end up making them like you, type thing.] so, before i knew it, we were all having sleepovers, hanging out at the mall, & so on.
You can't expect people to come to you, go to them. (: & you'll have friends in no time. you just gotta look for them.. & ditch the old ones, find people that have similar intersts as you!
I hope I helped, kcyaaa.
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