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I've been best friends with this guy since freshman year and we use to call each other almost daily on a regular basis to chat. Even after i changed schools we still talked and stuff. But recently he got a girlfriend (off of WoW3) which really surprised me since he use to grip about how retarded online relationships. After that, he totally changed. He stopped talking to me, spent so much time (pretty much when hes not in school) with his girlfriend on the phone or online (she lives in chicago, we live in cali) and just got so obssessed with her. Shes two years older and planning on moving to california when he graduates from high school and goes to college (this year). Just these few weeks, it became apparent that his girlfriend really got annoyed when i called him to talk and was bitching to him about it. And what he said to me today just hurt a lot and made me cry, since i didnt think he'd just throw me away for his girlfriend, but apparently he did.
Him: I need you to stop calling me
Him: I don't want you to think that I like you
Him: and you shouldn't ever have thought that I'd want to talk to you more than *girlfriend*
me: uh...
me: i never thought you liked me..
me: wtf
Him: Well good, just don't call me anymore
Him: It's irritating, and *Girlfriend* hates it too
I dont know how or why he said that, but it really hurt. since we use to have so much fun hanging out and talking over the phone. I just want to be good friends with him but apparenty there isnt even room for his girlfriend and his best girl friend anymore. What am i suppose to do? Just agree and stop talking to him completely? I dont want to lose my best friend just because his girlfriend is so overprotective of him and refuses to let him even talk to other girls over the phone. (link)
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God, I'm really shocked, I mean, even if he really had to say all those things he could have said it in a lot nicer way! Look, try to focus on other people who actually appreciate your friendship, since at the time being this guy is obviously, how shall I put it... not quite himself. I guess he's so infatuated with his girlfriend that he can't think clearly. Don't call him if he doesn't want that, but try not to despair - if he continues to feel that way about you, and if he doesn't realize he's done you wrong and call you to apologize, he wasn't worth your friendship anyway!
That part about not liking you probably meant that he didn't like you in the romantic sense, because he wouldn't have talked to you every day if he didn't like you as a friend. However, people change, and he has become a different person, a person who obviously doesn't value what you had. Try looking into the future instead of looking back, and don't make waiting for him to change his mind the main purpose of your life - you will meet other people, equally fun and good friends, and if he ever wants to be your friend again, great! If not, well, it's his loss, not yours, because you don't won't someone in your life who doesn't realize what a great person you are!
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Rating: 5
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thank you.. the part that hurt most was that it's my birthday tomorrow and i dont think he remembers since he figured he might as well act that way today. but thanks you give great advice =)
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