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Q: 14/f

Well i'm in the 8th grade, and I dont have a best friend... is that bad??? I'm not saying that I am lonely and I have no friends, I have plenty of friends.. just none of them are actually my BEST friends. Arn't best friends supposed to be there for you when you're feeling low? and they always come and sleepover and you always share secrets with each other? welll it seems like whenever I go up to my other friends, they are always busy with 'their' other best friends. It's like they have no intrest in me anymore. My brother just moved away to college and my cousin is staying with us for a while. I have a dog, could that be my best friend? I just feel like I have a lot of depression going on in my life and I really need somebody to talk to. yes, i know.......... I can talk to you on advicenators, but I need somebody not only for talking... but to share my happy moments with, a best friend
and I know you'll say talk to your family.... but the thing is.. both of my parents are ALWAYS working... they leave the house way earlier than I do... and the next time I see them is when i'm asleep. Its just not fair. My brother is in college, and my cousin is always hanging out with his friends or finding some excuse not to be in the house. I'm really sad that I dont have a best friend, and I'm a very busy person.... could that be the reason why I dont have a best friend? cause i'm always busy and they never have any time with me????????
You might say join a school activity and meet friends there... but TRUST ME! I dont make friends easily, lets just say I get SUPER SUPER SUPER nervous when I meet new people, or give a speech to a class. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!! I FEEL SO ALONE.... I always see kids in the hallway, hanging out with their best friends, and I am really sad that I dont have a best friend there by me. WHAT SHOULD I DO????????????
OH AND IF YOU COULD: ANOTHER QUESTION= HOW DO I GET RID OF THE FEAR OF MEETING NEW PEOPLE AND GIVING OUT SPEECHES??????????????? THANKS SOOOOOOOOO MUCH... I KNOW THIS WAS LONG, BUT THANKS

maybe you should try hanging out with your friends more. Then get to know them in ways you didnt before. You can come closer to them and you will hang out more and you know, do things together. I was in the exact same situation but you know, the friends you have now that dont just come up and talk unless you start the conversation arent going to be the ones that you will enjoy. I know this from past experience. Just hang out with one of your close friends, (sit by them at lunch, talk on the phone, email, be class partners...etc...) Trust me, i did this and before i knew it, i had some friends. Also it's not nessicarliy bad to not have a BEST friend because you can still feel cheered up and they will be there for you. Just try it out. it dosent work on all people but some people it does, (including me) so just have fun with your life and make friends day by day. It will get easier soon. You can email me or whatever if you have any other questions, just feel free to ask them. I hope i helped.

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