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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


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hey guys :] im in this really hard situation! so id like to tell you what happens and it might be kinda long but you need to know the details to know what im going through! so anyways..there is this really adorable sweet guy and ive liked him on and off for around 4-5 months. he never knew and still doesnt because he is one of my good friends and i see him alot, if not every weekend. because we go to different schools and my cousin is his neighbor. anyways before he got a girlfriend about 3 months ago me and him flirted like crazy i mean we would wrestle and get close, never KISS or cuddle or anything. but now that he has a girlfriend we dont do it so much anymore. sometimes i feel that he does have feelings or is still somewhat attracted to me. like tonight it was me and him and my two cousins together and like we were going to his girlfriends hockey scrimmage and so then we had to park far away because it was busy and my cousin forgot her cellphone in her car so hes like come on we'll meet her in there. and then hes like your my date come on! so he stuck his arm out and we like linked arms and then my feet hurt so i was like can you give me a piggy back ride :] and hes like yeah get on and so he did. and it was cute i was like aww i dont want this to end! and then like when we got back into the car he got really close but he was laughing and hes like ahh im cold and stuff! but then he moved back because we were both in the back seat and then his girlfriend came and she was with us for the rest of the night. one time we were playing football and then he like would give me the ball to throw because i wanted to but he would always like kind of hug me from behind and give me the ball. its like to ME he tires to flirt, without being too obvious and sometimes it feels like he likes me too! but doesnt want me to know or anyone else because he likes his girlfriend, but could there be a chance he likes me too? its like when i dont see him for a little bit im like good im getting over him i dont like him he has a girlfriend there is no point! and then right when i see him and we talk and like flirt all my feelings come back. im not going to stop being around him he is my friend and im soo happy when im around him. but then it kills me to know that he has a girlfriend and loves her not me...and me and him always joke like tonight i was coming home from work and they were coming to pick me up and im like i have to change first! and hes like okay you can just change in front of us ;) and started laughing! and then me and him both had to go to the bathroom bad so we pulled to the side of a road and my cousin was like go you two, you guys can have a quickie and then i laughed and then hes like alright lets go and smiled (but hes joking, obviously) but those kind of things come up all the time! like "sexual" but jokingly. and its like i dont know what to do because i dont want to be like nooo! ewww! because i know i wouldnt mind being with him but then i dont want him to know and be like okay! ahhaha. so i always just laugh about it. its sorta awkward but its cute how he answers. i dont want to tell him i like him because it would be soo awkward afterwards and woould pretty much ruin our friendship! and i try to deny to myself that i like him because i know i dont have a chance and that he loves his girlfriend but i just LOVE being around him. im always soo happy when i hear that im going to be seeing him :] i know i shouldnt put myself through this but i dont know what to do!!!! i love getting his attention and have him look at me and be around me but then i think. shoot he has a girlfriend :[


well here are some quotes that tell how im feeling if this helps any..


you tell me about her and i smile and say "thats great" but you know me and by the look in my eyes you should be able to see that i want to be in her place..

people constantly ask me, "are you two going out?" but they have no idea how much it hurts to say "no we're just friends"..

Yes, I love long questions, there so awesome to read and then...help with yeah. Ok, so, this situation sucks. I really know how you feel, except the guy that i had the hots for didnt have a girlfriend, and it was all so weird. Guys, sometimes dont realize how there making girls feel when they flirt like that. Yes, there is a 50 50 chance that he likes you. Evidently theres nothing you can do about it because he has a girlfriend. Its ok if you dont get over him right now, you dont have to, as long as you konw at this point you two cant be together. I think, that if you let him know how you feel, about trying not to like him, but hten suddenly liking him when you see him, that a burden will be lifted, and you'll be able to go on, dont be scared either, if he doesn't want to be friends because of that, then thats bullshit.About your quote:
"i just wanted you to know that i hate you for all this shit, but yet i still stick to you like paper on glue. i can never seem to get enough of you."
You should totally tell him that! It'll probably leave him dumbfounded, but who cares? You've gotta do what you gotta do! Hope I helped, good luck!

-Brina

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